guys here: get female friends, but not a girlfriend

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The best I can manage are acquaintances.

Yes, but you would need to drive successfully on this path.

:-/ so it's not a guarantee.

I invited the people I hang out with to my place so that my parents could met them last month.
We needed some place to party at and partying at my place with my parents meant we could get in for free(long story) we also got a $100 meal for 20 but thats obviously unrelated to this.


At first my parents where like this people seem cool/nice/something.


30 Minutes in my parents friends started arriving.
Within 3 minutes I was being asked why there was a group of 10 women and merely 2 males(counting me)
The stats got better this wednesday but most of the people I meet are females(a female is the one organizing the meetings and she is somewhat wary of male´s intention when joining the group...)

This has been somewhat similar since last year´s March

This.
Too nice, too accommodating, and not taking charge is what gets guys in the friendzone

I will keep this in mind.

I disagree though. When a girl sees you as a friend, that friendship will become too valuable and she just won't see you as a romantic prospect. In most cases, there are some rare exceptions though.

Yep

They're usually popular threads though...

We're easily amused

or Bill has his finger on the pulse of what people want to discuss...

I get the impression he's continually on a mission to solve the riddle of all these phenomenon of how men and
women interact but there is no solution, things just are as they are!

Mathematical genius types have gone mad trying to solve the unsolveable

I don't know, what I'm seeing is the same kind of fascination a boy has when he starts getting curious about dating and relationships and crushes. I wouldn't relate it to a brilliant mind going mad turning mayhem into math. But that's just my opinion (if a little patronizing).

Most of the time I'm around women these days. I will say this, if you like one of the girls you are hanging out with be sure to make at least a small effort in treating her differently from the others. If you pander to every single one in a desperate hope to get any or fear or losing the interest of all you'll be seen as the gay best friend forever, or eventually seen as creepy.

There's completly different methods and rules depending on if you go after women when you are mixing in a group or if you do it one to one online

I do the latter as no way am I going to compete with other women for a man. In the group environment I am at a severe disadvantage as my kind of intelligence/value cannot be seen in group type conversations. I do not get on with people who thrive in groups basically as it's a completely different mindset.

I think all Bill's speculations are based mostly on group interactions, not online ones where it can be far more about intellect rather than who can flutter their eyelashes the most impressively

Also, what does Bill ultimately want? A wife and children?

Interesting summation and questions, nessa.
What is your research and experience all leading to, Bill? Is there a purpose?

You guys gotta stop fearing the friend zone! My female friends, who have boyfriends, hit on me, and their boyfriends don't care. They seem to all want to see how my first real girlfriend/boyfriend relationship turns out. I admit I have sort of had a gf, but it was only 3 days. Anyways, if you guys fear the friend zone, NT girls might think you fear the romance zone, and usually won't have attractive things to say about you. From my experience, being friend zoned has led to women actually enjoying my company, and many trying to figure me out. It helps to know your best friends try to imagine you in a perfect marriage, and what that lady would look like. If you don't know how to approach a strange lady for the purpose of being a friend for her, you don't know how to approach a lady to be her man, it's common sense.

Friends and girlfriends/boyfriends offer some of the same qualities but also different qualities.

Trying to be a good friend only, achieves exactly that.

You should know what I want from V for Verbose's thread: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt229527.html

Hey wait, your name is Bill, too?

I'm going to read that now.