"Dream Girl"

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I don't mean conservative politics though ( although my politic may or may not be that way <libertarian>). I mean more on my outlook on life, how I invest, and the risks I take. I guess what I mean by trying to figure this out is kind of solidify it into a person, and not just a figment. Maybe I am over thinking this. I am kinda a game plan kinda person, and so when something like this comes up, I want to deconstruct it, and thus when I can't find a solution that will bring me results, I start worrying about my future, etc. .

I'm a game plan kind of person too. But relationships aren't planned. Ask any married couple if they planned to meet. They might even say it was an unfortunate accident with a wink. Tasks require plans. Do you want to be with a taskmaster? And do you think girls want to be with a taskmaster? I don't mean that you are a taskmaster, but relationships don't need planning. Structure, yes. But setting boundaries and limits are not the same as making plans. This is a good thing because relaxing is easier, presuming you are with the right person.

Dream girls don't exist man, I've spent a long time trying to find one and to no avail I find myself settling for what seems to be mediocre standards. Aint that some BS, but it's true we live in an imperfect universe, my existence, your existence it doesn't matter where not meant to reach past our best. Doesn't mean there's no use in trying though you'll learn as I had to that perfection is only a state of mind. Your dream girl is how you see her, I met a girl once I should've grabbed and held onto but I messed up big time, her appearance didn't matter to me her opinions mattered more, who she was as a person mattered more. It's gonna be the girl you'll be able to talk to and never have to stop talking to. Don't worry about finding a girl right off the back who knows what Agorism is, if you a man can obsess about it then any female out there could easily practice it as well, along with any other beliefs you might hold, maybe not all of the same belief, but like I said no one's perfect. I know everyone keeps saying improve yourself first, let me put it this way if your not in a suicidal bout of depression then you're fine, you're a-okay only make yourself as good as you want to. You still have a life to live, and life should come before love.

And remember if you truly want to find love then it's up to you to put yourself in a position where it's possible to meet other women, don't rely on chance, cause so far chance has screwed me over time and time again

Is that by any chance a reference to this song by Neutral Milk Hotel? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWNT11IqSXM

To the OP: Look, you gave a long, and wide-ranging list of interests, which is, in many ways, a good thing, because it shows that you're an interesting person, but the odds of you finding a girl who is mutually interested in all of these things is very slim, especially if you're basing your potential partner's off of primarily looks. But maybe you can find someone who has SOME interests in common with you. Say you meet a girl who also enjoys jazz music, then sure, maybe it's alright if you rant about your unorthodox political views from time to time, but only if you're OK with listening to her talk at length from time to time about the unusual subjects that she's passionate about, like, say, southern Gothic literature. Otherwise, it looks to me like you're looking for a girl who'll just passively go along with whatever you want, like Janissy said, and I'm assuming you don't actually want that.

I just thought of something. Maybe I should try Salsa . But first I have to check to see if they have that in my town.

Do you have a hobby that involves doing something rather discussing things intellectually? The problem with intellectual discussions is it's hard to just relax and relate over that stuff. I think most women would prefer more personal topics, like bringing up past experiences you've had. They probably want to know more about you than just your opinions on various topics. Opinions and intellectual interests might change with time. You need to be comfortable with sharing more than just that.

I always practice what I preach (or at least try too.) Unfortunately some people are beyond help.


To the OP, you need to get this "dream girl" crap out of your lexicon. Dream girls aren't sustaining because eventually the glamour wears off and you realize that you're unfairly putting putting all this responsibility and expectation onto someone else. You can only get real validation from yourself and (unless they have zero self-esteem too) any girl you like is going to run for the hills at the first sign of codependency.

Unless your dream girl is having a wife with whom you will never get divorced with, instead of a perfect hot and smart girl that hunts bear. Geese, why don't you try for compatibility.

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Is that Liara from Mass Effect?

Dream girls exist only in dreams.

I understand what you're going through. If it makes you feel any better, I'll have you know that I'm a girl and I'm looking for a boyfriend for similar reasons. If you want, you can private message me. I would love to have a good conversation too. And really, I was someone who understands me too.

The whole thing I am telling you is the truth, trust me.