What do you think of online dating sites?

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I've just barely started. My frustration is I'm hesitant to go on a normal "date". I don't mind starting out by meeting people in the "friend zone". I'd rather just look for lonely girls who'd like to talk with me and get to know me online first. I have no idea how to search for that kind of thing. I also notice all the people looking at my profile have a low match% and are nothing like me.

Yeah marshall..this is why I find dating sites not to be ideal for AS half the time. We often want to form the connection before anything else, whereas in the big world everyone likes to do that after. I only recommend dating sites to people ready to do the latter, else go to hobby sites or groups based on your interests.

The problem is I have trouble connecting to new people in group settings. I just can't ever relax enough to really click with anyone in a noisy distracting environment. I don't like talking to people in bars or even restaurants. It's just not ideal at all. Also, people who share my interests don't always have a compatible personality and I don't like structured "clubs" where I don't have the freedom to deviate from the group activity.

Also, does anyone know why so many women with match and friend percentages less than 50% are looking at my profile?

^^^^Good question.I had men look at mine that were not a match at all,but maybe they liked your picture?

It's flattering that there are physically attractive women looking at my profile but then I look at theirs and just think "there's no way we'll get along or have anything in common to talk about".

^^^^Yeah,they looked at my pic,than they read my profile and I guess didn't like it.Oh well,I did put down to not bother if they killed snakes on the highway or spiders in the tub which pretty much eliminated every one from this area.Plus my political beliefs.
And the only way I communicate good is by exchanging information so I'm not sure how to even communicate with them.

Online dating sucks, but sadly, many of us are at the mercy if these sites.

Well, my issue is that I'm living in Grand Rapids Michigan but searching for a job in Seattle. Some women I messaged were okay at first but then seemed a little short/bitchy and cut off communication when I brought up that I wasn't yet in Seattle. I don't know how to narrow down people who are okay with a period of long-distance chatting? It seems like there are so few willing to do that. I don't know how to find people who are okay with getting to know someone long distance over the internet. I also don't know how to find people my age who aren't driven to "date the love of their life" or refuse to even talk to uncertain people.

^^^I don't understand their reluctance to communicate,if you have plans to move there it seems they would take it as an opportunity to get to know you better.But Seattle is a cool city,my daughter lived there.It's very open minded,you will most likely be more successful there than in Mich.

This is sort of off-topic, but ...

Back in the 1970s, a friend of mine posted three different newspaper ads under three different identities. In one, he presented himself as a devout Christian; in another, he presented himself as an agnostic; in the third, he presented himself as a somewhat "rabid" atheist.

He was surprised to discover the same women responding to each ad. They would present themselves appropriately, depending on which ad they were responding to.

He ended up marrying the newspaper woman who sold him the ad spaces.

^^^^Sounds like the wisest choice,at least she wasn't a poser.

I think she also set him up to it - they were in cahoots over the whole "experiment".

I tried a lot of them but I never had any luck. I'm a very unique person thou who has some disabilities in addition to AS I don't make the best 1st impressions & it takes time to get to know me. The 3 girlfriends I had I met while posting on forums; I met my 2nd & current on this one. My personality comes out better by posting a while

I guess they had something in common.

your mileage will vary. you get out of it what you put into it.

still, the best option is to actually ask people out in real life.