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10 Jul 2013, 10:35 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MXH wrote:
Ok, so ill ask you guys this. Can you find a single reason to this dilemma that does not involve an aspergers diagnosis. I do want to hear results and then let you know what i think based on them
The shortcomings that have nothing with AS:
- Lack of experience: Others of my age range have already at least 7 years of relationship experience.
- Lack of car: I drive though, sometimes the date's car or family member's car or rent, but not *owning* a car is certainly a huge turn off to a lot of women.
- My height: 5'3, 163 cm, extremely shorter than what 90% of women fantasize about, and yes it's a huge limiting factor.
- Lack of religion: A lot can't tolerate atheists.
- Not the pursuer male type: yes, I don't pursue, I try to build a connection with a girl but I don't pursue at all. I've noticed that most women LOVE to be pursued (staring at WP women: You monkeys!! ! ;p).
- Not feeling adult enough: Internal insecurity, at this age I still don't feel much adult.
- Extremely Introvert: Yet trying to be more extrovert but not working so well, ehh, some might speculate this is AS thing, whatever, I don't believe much in AS altogether btw lol.
- Not having mainstream interests.
- Not a smooth talker or conversationalist: I said it in a conversation related thread once, in real-life public encounters (not dates) I do not know how to "create" a long conversation that helps to create some bond, even during the dates I am usually the listener, my side of conversation often created by reaction to what she's saying.
experience: everyone starts out from zero at some point. getting advice from women or asking whoever you're dating to help teach you about what they like might be a good strategy.
car/height: I think these are shallow reasons to like/dislike someone for. besides, not all women care about height.
religion: don't forget there are also some who can't tolerate those who are religious
pursuer: putting romantic stereotypes aside, women may interpret pursuit behaviors as interest, and lack of pursuit as lack of interest. But this word is vague so I'm not sure exactly what you mean by pursuit. There are also some women who may be turned off when the guy is too intensely pursuing, so not always a good thing.
conversation: listening is a great skill. Being able to 'interview' and learn more about other people will make them feel connected to you, then the only thing that remains is for you to be comfortable teaching others about yourself.
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11 Jul 2013, 2:44 am
monetgarden wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MXH wrote:
Ok, so ill ask you guys this. Can you find a single reason to this dilemma that does not involve an aspergers diagnosis. I do want to hear results and then let you know what i think based on them
The shortcomings that have nothing with AS:
- Lack of experience: Others of my age range have already at least 7 years of relationship experience.
- Lack of car: I drive though, sometimes the date's car or family member's car or rent, but not *owning* a car is certainly a huge turn off to a lot of women.
- My height: 5'3, 163 cm, extremely shorter than what 90% of women fantasize about, and yes it's a huge limiting factor.
- Lack of religion: A lot can't tolerate atheists.
- Not the pursuer male type: yes, I don't pursue, I try to build a connection with a girl but I don't pursue at all. I've noticed that most women LOVE to be pursued (staring at WP women: You monkeys!! ! ;p).
- Not feeling adult enough: Internal insecurity, at this age I still don't feel much adult.
- Extremely Introvert: Yet trying to be more extrovert but not working so well, ehh, some might speculate this is AS thing, whatever, I don't believe much in AS altogether btw lol.
- Not having mainstream interests.
- Not a smooth talker or conversationalist: I said it in a conversation related thread once, in real-life public encounters (not dates) I do not know how to "create" a long conversation that helps to create some bond, even during the dates I am usually the listener, my side of conversation often created by reaction to what she's saying.
experience: everyone starts out from zero at some point. getting advice from women or asking whoever you're dating to help teach you about what they like might be a good strategy.
car/height: I think these are shallow reasons to like/dislike someone for. besides, not all women care about height.
religion: don't forget there are also some who can't tolerate those who are religious
pursuer: putting romantic stereotypes aside, women may interpret pursuit behaviors as interest, and lack of pursuit as lack of interest. But this word is vague so I'm not sure exactly what you mean by pursuit. There are also some women who may be turned off when the guy is too intensely pursuing, so not always a good thing.
conversation: listening is a great skill. Being able to 'interview' and learn more about other people will make them feel connected to you, then the only thing that remains is for you to be comfortable teaching others about yourself.
Thanks, but I think you're being too ideal and not down to earth.
MXH, what's your assessment?
11 Jul 2013, 2:54 am
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11 Jul 2013, 2:56 am
Boo what are your best 9 attractive attributes to women? Serious please. 
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11 Jul 2013, 6:05 am
MR_BOGAN wrote:
Boo what are your best 9 attractive attributes to women? Serious please.
I can list them but this changes nothing.
11 Jul 2013, 8:52 am
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