Aspies on OKCupid

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Personally, I wouldn't say anything about it. Unfortunately, there are alot of close minded people out there who may have the wrong idea about a.s disorders and if you tell them off the bat, they maydevelop a negative stereotype about you off the bat. I wouldn't disclose to girls unless you are 100 % certain she will accept you.

I know a few people in real life who met their significant other on dating websites. I suspected two of them of being on the spectrum long before they went on OKCupid and met their significant other. In my opinion, people who are very social would never have the capacity use dating websites. They need live interaction in order to connect. But, I could be wrong.

okcupid had a lot of weird girls on it that didn't make sense. all saying I am going to college for this and that. give me a break. it's really stupid. I couldn't believe that they still have people like that. why cant okcupid just have plain simple people that make sense. I mean really interested. not like oh message me if your into pineapples or into extremely good fortune(---just examples. really a pain.

I said on my profile for several months that I had Aspergers, but took it off after a while. It hasn't really affected anything either way, but I don't get many messages anyway, being a gay guy out in the middle of nowhere. That being said, I started using OkCupid after I reasoned out that it was probably my best shot at a relationship given my circumstances, and I haven't been entirely wrong about that.

The first guy I was going after for a little while knew I had Aspergers, but he also suspected he might have it himself. It didn't work out because he was even more introverted than I am, and that put more pressure on me than I could handle. The guy I'm currently pursuing doesn't know, and I want to tell him, I'm just not sure how he'll react. We've been speaking for almost three months now, and I've been given no real reason to suspect he'll react negatively, particularly if I have the chance to talk to him about things in-depth. It's still a major source of anxiety for me right now, though.

I have known people (NT's) to go on dating sites just cause they thought it was funny to laugh at peoples profiles. There are tons of fake profiles out there too and people who just work on the inside of a site (probably to make members stay so they can earn more revenue on ads). So perhaps it's not the best place unless you can be sure it's got genuine users who aren't just fake profiles that all kinda say the same thing and are pretty obvious. I guess you can't do much if someone (who is a real user) wants to be a timewaster though. As was said that really social people probably don't need it so that's probably the ones who waste time so maybe those ones should be avoided.

They certainly don't make ad revenue off of me! Gotta love ad blockers.
Most of the negative experiences I've had on OkCupid (I haven't used any other dating sites) have had to do with very real people, which I suppose I should be thankful for. Nothing would freak me out more than an obvious sham profile.

Sure, I'll post my Okcupid user name here: RealAbstraction.

I'm a 28 year old male from Toronto, Canada.

Hey guys..im here to give you sucessful adcice if you want to go on a dating site
1.A pro photo does get the best results .because when people go through the meet me feature..it shows your photo and a sentence or 2 about you.so take 20 40 or 100 pictures of yourself.and choose the best 5 photo edit to hide worst quality and show best quality..make sure u look good..

2.your profile ...describe about your best qualitys only...dont get into too much detail..some profiles turn people off...keep it short and sweet..do not get weird on profile like talking about your mold and spore collection..lol..

3.what you wear in your photo and the name you choose for your profile..makes a big difference..ie..do not call yourself nerdmuncher ..or something goofy..people pick up on that..a name like bluerose..or after something thats attractive..your clothes descrbe what kind of person u are .and basically what u are all about..ie..a photo of a girl with her boobs hanging out ..wants sex.....a pic of ugly clothes mismatch colors is mental problems...a pic of baseball clothes caps.. are sports people...plain jain is usually rednecks..or lazy...nice dressed ..buisnesss oriented etc. so choose wisely..you will have the upper hand because most people dont even know that..it gives u an idea what your looking for so u dont waist your time as well..
4.if you want to post your disabilty ..and go that route..state that this disabilty has better benefits for a long lasting relationship then a regular person if you take the time and read up or watch a video ..you may have your soulmate...aspis and auties are being sought after for theyre child like qualitys ..you can help teach them social skills and in return you will have a best friend and mate for life..
.5.ok .now you have the advantage again in the smarts department....use it to your advantage..texting is quite easy..so put that brain to work and read what you text before u send it ..change words to the style of expression...express your thoughts...not to deep ..stay suttle..avoid im or chat...through a mic...as long as possible..until they get to know you ....

6. conversation .ask lots of questions to find out what they are like..and let them do the talking....avoid one sentence people....u will get no where..soon u will understand how things work...oh and dont get frustrated...to my amazement ..normal people cant even get along...on dating sites .lol..which again puts you in a better position...because you arnt picky..like these people ..the good looking ones are high on theyre looks and wont even bother with you.and trust me they are not your kind of person..they are very ignorant..and live in a fantasy soap world..or users ..players ..and want u for one reason...money ...sex.

7...good luck........this advice is solid and tested ..I am a 40 yr man with autism...with a creative mind..i.somehow managed to learn on my own ..but .still have poor social verbal abilitys.my only problem I havnt been able to overcome....I have an idea though..and im almost 100% it will work...record your voice and listen to yourself talk...change and add expression in the way u say things..record again until your satisfied on the way u want to sound..now facial expressions look in the mirror and talk to yourself watch your facial expressions when u talk in your new voice...adapt and change face expressions to certain words say sad then make a sad face...say happy make a happy face....try this with a huge vocabulary of words..


8.let me know how u do..and if u need more advice you are more than welcome to ask me...one more thing .do not get sucked in to dating sites that offer free dating for 4.99 trial periods with credit cards they are evil...and will burn u...unless u cancel subsciption before free trial ends they willl continue billing your card at full price .they also have tolls or trolls which is a phoney reply ..u will be sent dating requests before you even finish profile..dont be fooled .its a gimic to fool you into signing up
..no one will respond out of the 10 u just received after sign up..

My name on okcupid is sirzarok but i am a straight guy... well straightish.... hetero-flexible but not interested in guys so straight for the purpose of this post. I live in south Carolina. the upstate so western north Carolina and northern Georgia are all within reason. I'm a whovian i believe in god and have aspergers.


In another note i do not have my aspie listed though i think some a of my question answers say it. i have answered every question they have.

The problem with stating you have Aspergers on a dating website is, it usually attracts bad people. These people know that us Aspies have trouble making friends and reading social cues so they take advantage of us. I met a guy on there who claimed he had Aspergers and he demanded I meet him up at Barns & Noble alone and he got extremely angry when I decided to ignore his messages.

This is one of his replies when I tried to tell him another place to meet besides Barns & Noble:

I'm a 51 yo guy looking for a girl, Chronoping