Why do so many Aspies want their partners to be 'perfect'?

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Seeking perfection, I think, has to do with emotionality and insecurity.

Accept your own imperfection, and accepting others' becomes much easier.

That's simplistic.

I do think that learning to deal with your own mistakes-- in the sense of being OK with them, not getting upset about them, and just taking mistakes as a matter of course and fixing them when you can-- makes it much easier to cope with others.

Perfectionism is a relationship killer.

There is no such thing as perfect in this world. That may sound cliche, but it’s the truth. The average person admires perfection and seeks to obtain it. But what’s the point of achieving perfection? There is none. Nothing. Not a single thing. I spit on perfection! If something is perfect, then there is nothing left. There is no room for imagination. No place left for that person to gain additional knowledge or abilities. Do you know what that means? For scientists such as us, perfection only brings despair. It is our job to create things more wonderful than anything before them, but never to obtain perfection. A scientist must be a person who finds ecstasy while suffering from that antinomy.

I think that because many Aspies spend a long time being single, they build up in their minds the perfect girlfriend.

just get a pet

My mom feels like my woman has to be perfect. I told her that's not the case. I'm just not willing to settle. If I settle I wouldn't be doing me or my partner no justice and I'd be wasting both our times.
Often when you tell people you are not settling they think you are looking for a perfect person. Maybe you are? I'm not. I don't require many characteristics for my future woman.