why doesn't anybody ever want me?

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If you want to attract interest, be interesting.

If you want to be approached, be approachable.

If you want to be loved, be loveable.

... all so simple ... all so difficult ...

Reality is 100% subjective. Thinking anything is universal is the ultimate illusion.

You're freaking obsessed man.........

That simple, huh?

Why even post in here?


Classy response, even by your standards.


What, again? Do you f*****g scrapbook these or something?

OP, I got nothing. I could offer you some useless vanilla advice but I know futile that crap is.

Yes it really is that simple. If someone is not desirable, then if they want to be desirable they should change. It really is that simple.

I posted here to answer a question.

Never give up, you're only forever alone until you're in a nursing home. Besides, who needs a gf? They're moody, expensive, and only care about their looks.

Last edited by Codyrules37 on 02 Oct 2013, 11:06 am, edited 2 times in total.

Actually if you read the thread I'm not even the original person to ask for the pic. Having a pic wouldn't do anything but help us better determine what could be the problem with the OP.

That might be true for people in your age gap. At my age, it's not that much of a concern. Job, car, place to live are far more important. So is the ability to not walk away at the first sign of a problem which believe me, is far more likely among the most insecure of people.

Maybe you look like a hobo on crack

or you come off as too needy


or maybe you look like a hobo on crack and you come off as too needy. Luckily these things can be improved upon by taking social skills classes and buying new and better clothes.

Or you can just date your best friend. Or have your best friend be your wingman or wingwoman and go to da club

If you're secretly in love with someone already, you will subconsciously not put as much effort into showing your best self to someone else.

like Kim Kardashian

<blunt>Dating is competition. If there are winners, there must be losers. Unfortunately, we are the latter.</blunt>

Your posts on this thread crack me up. But, let's face it, are they actually helping the OP?

I haven't heard anything about if the OP likes himself or not, and what he thinks of himself. If this is a self-pity party that is being thrown (fair enough, we've all been there I'm sure, yes even you Cody), and we're all invited, then I look forward to it ending and the OP actually giving us a little more insight into the places where he goes to connect with women, and how often, and what he actually does.

And may I remind newageretrophie that if he does kill himself, that's not going to improve his dating record.

I guess more intel would be helpful, huh? First of all, I won't actually kill myself; it's just that felling of hopelessness voicing itself in that manner. Besides, even though knowing there isn't a snowball's chance in hell with her hurts like a b***h my best friend is the main thing keeping me from actually attempting suicide ( as depressed & worthless as I feel, I'd feel infinitely worse if I couldn't hang out with her ).

second: I probably should put myself out there more, but I've been living with a shattered heart for the past 17 years and the constant rejection doesn't help things ( Inuyasha fans will get why I comapre my heartbreak to the Shikon Jewel ). It also doesn't exactly help that I am completely oblivious when it comes to flirting...

third: I don't like lying about who I am, but being myself doesn't work too well. Women just don't seem willing to take a chance on a 32 year old Aspie virgin on disability with no dating experience, no car ( or any ability to drive outside video games ), and an intense fear of dogs who lives with his parents ( necessary atm...economy kinda sucks ) and likes video games & cartoons...it doesn't seem to matter that I'm a gentleman, a romantic ( literal hopeless romantic atm ), great with kids ( and wanting kids of my own ), sensitive and loyal to a fault.

I don't think I unattractive...I'm not comfortable linking to my FB account, is there a way to post a pic from my computer?

Make a throwaway imgur account and post a pic there and link here or where ever.

I wonder if the women you meet pick up that your in love with your best friend.