how not to piss off women

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I saw these words of wisdom on a sign.
5 Deadly Terms Used By A Woman
#1 Fine
This is the word used to end an argument when she knows she is right and you need to shut up.
#2 Nothing
Means something and you need to be worried.
#3 Go Ahead
This is a dare,not permission.Do not do it.
#4 Whatever
A woman's way of saying"screw you."
#5 That's OK
She is thinking long and hard on how you will pay for your mistake.
BONUS WORD:WOW!
This is not a compliment,she's amazed that one person could be so stupid.

why can't women be direct? why can't they just say "SCREW YOU!" when their man misbehaves? why must there be all this guesswork?

I think NT women have a tendency to want to fix men. So, since Aspie men seem like they need to be fixed, those will women seek "solutions" on how to fix the men they're with. After seeing probably a hundred threads about this same thing from women on this part of the forum, the women who come in looking for help tend to say the same stuff over and over again: "I think he has Asperger's. I will give you a list showing how I came to this conclusion. Please help me figure out how I can change every aspect of him." I have not seen as many of these posts from NT men, but I'm sure there's been some. And then those people may come back here, complaining about how they can't change their significant other, pretty much blaming Autism for why they need to leave said person.

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I used to throw things,I was not subtle.

did you throw things because your man was clueless/obstinate or because words were insufficient in other ways? what I wished was that women would not be abusive but also not be mum, there has to be a middle way.

Both,but when I lost my temper it was more like a meltdown type,I have always done stupid stuff like that ,even when I was little.Therapy has really helped me.I have not done anything like that in years.These type episodes happened when words had no effect on him,it was a real toxic relationship.We truly did bring out the worst in each other.But I can sum him up easy,Narcissistic Personality Disorder.We tried counseling together.My counselor said he was a very manipulative person, he did not cause me to be mentally ill,but the way he behaved was not going to help me with any stability in my life.He was fond of gas lighting.

am glad you gave him the shove. hope your present companion is more companionable.

Sounds like what I'm dealing with now. If I said, "Screw you!" to him, he'd knock another hole in the wall. Not all men are that good at saying what they really mean, either.

^^^I find it easy to get along with myself.We hardly ever argue.

as Katherine Hepburn was fond of saying, "maybe men and women are not so well-suited for each other, maybe they should live apart and drop in now and then."

but when you DO argue I bet it's a real corker!

women are more sensitive then men are. Be careful what you say to girls.

I will give you an example. One time in my personal finance class at my table, a girl was talking about her ex-boyfriend. So I mentioned to her, you must have had a ton of boyfriends. Then she starts crying because she thought I called her a slut. I said I was sorry and didn't mean to call her anything.

Thats why you have to be careful what you say to girls. You may not be trying to be rude on purpose.

Sorry to hear you are dealing with that.Trying to talk to my ex was like trying to reason with a stone.

some folk are like "my way or the highway, i'm paving you under it!" the only filter I can see to reduce the incidence of meetups with such toxic people, would be a LOOOOOOOONNNNNGGGG courtship. if the other party is that type he would bail out early on in the process, thus saving you from later heartache.

Aspie Men are known to be quite sensitive too. It tends to be a huge turn off to most NT women. they feel you need to take care of them, not the other way around.

As for the girl who didn't like your comment... the word "sorry" often does nothing in my experience. "I didn't mean to imply that." Or "I didn't intend to make you feel uncomfortable" usually works better.

why can't both sides be more willing to take care of one another? why does it always have to be one-sided?