Does It Really Get Better?

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Ok Ok Ok I am done. I think I need to put a leash on me. I obviously am beating my head against the wall here so to speak. I already know I cannot get people to see anything. I can only change myself and that is it. Time to throw in the towel. Raise the white flag. I surrender. I cannot win.

Someone once said you can either be right or happy. I see what they mean. I am not happy at all trying to prove I am right. It is like insanity, doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

Punkguy. You need to take a break from the computer for a bit and cool down. Read a book maybe?

C'mon, are single mothers not allowed to date?

If you don't want to care for someone's child, don't date anyone who has kids, that simple. I am sure single guys with kids would be willing to date a woman who already has kids.

Some people are rude. I'm not going to say names. I'm not interested in raising another mans child. I've talked about this in other threads saying better date young before women get baggage. Ain't nobody got time for that.

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Honey, If you really wan't to find love you cannot afford to be that picky about how the life of the person you eventually might become romantic with are. If she has a child, so what? You'll get used to that setting after a while. If she doesn't, well then great.
Point is, it is behavior etc. things like that that you should be more aware of. If you meet someone who with you share a few Common interests, have somewhat similar mindset, and have some of the quality traits you look for in a woman physically and mentally, then great. If She has a child? Just deal with it, and embrace the fact that you have met someone you enjoy spending time with.

Be positive and your bound to sooner or later find that something positive has found a place in your life

You could still date a younger woman. Anyway I doubt all women in their 30s have just got pregnant with some guy and then left him. I know some girls on dating sites are in that situation but not all.

Obviously I don't know exactly what your mum meant (maybe you could ask her), but I don't think things magically get better as you get older. If anything, "it" gets worse - things just tend to be simpler when you're younger. The only way it which it gets better is that you get better. I often find myself thinking "if only I knew 10 years ago what I know now!" (Of course, I realise that in 10 years I'll probably think the same thing, but that doesn't help me, since I don't know now what I'll - hopefully - know then!)

Like I believe I said before, I understand people go through stuff, but I hate how sometimes stupid things are. And yes there may be exceptions to the rule, but I am saying as a rule of thumb. Using another situation to contrast this with (this was a few years ago mind you), there was this girl who I thought liked me, and I asked her, she said no, and that was the end of that. But then, when she wanted one of her friends that was ahead of the line to be with her, she asked if me and her could swap (mind you this was when I was like 16, so not that long ago), and in exchange she would be my friend. I refused, since that seemed kinda shallow.

Now I guess here is my thing: why not now? Why not be friends with me (in general, not in reference to the previous reference) now? And in my case, wouldn't it be as equivalent to pick up a 18 or 19 year old Asia girl when I was 40, and claim that it was "love", when in fact it was for resources? So in a similar way it is with this case, except in the later I would get a tad more in return if you could quantify it. I don't want to leave any possibilities closed, but I guess my point is that if they are going to do that, should I just screw around abroad in the mean time and call it even? And yes I was under a tad of duress. But that is besides the point. I wonder if there is such thing as love anymore. Sometimes at least it seems like nothing more than fodder from an economics class. And I am not asking for Mrs. Universe or Mrs. America , all I am asking for is someone who is nice looking (at least to me, and which I am quite liberal on), and shares some commonality. And as far as the child, I love children, that is not the point. It is the integrity of it, tit for tat if you will. If we are going to be based on either traditional value or post modernism, let's at least decide fully on which rules we want, not a hybrid. Either it is self interest vs self interest, or social mores.

Sorry for the rant, but it is just frustrating. I want to explore other parts of the world and maybe see how dating and life in general is there, and I think my gf is going to dump me (online relationship). IDK, I just feel like I will never experience life like other people and will be some misfit. As it is I have never gotten past date 1 (outside the internet).

For the longest time I have had depression, and I want it to stop. The only thing that seemed to calm it was my gf online. Otherwise I tend to lapse into depression. I don't understand that.

you can always order a mail order bride. I recommend the asian chicks.

just watch this video.

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Zacb, dating abroad is a great option for certain people. You need to figure out what it is the reason you aren't able to get dates and work on that first. I'd also try to get into a relationship with someone here first before you ship some poor woman across the world and she doesn't end up enjoying the relationship with you.

True. I am kinda mixed though. The first one I "dated" online hasn't spoken to me since we stopped (Christian girl from the Philippines) and the other one I feel like may want to break it off (she is from Mexico). As for physical dates, I have tried pickup (and almost got into trouble with a few girls, even though I stopped after I noticed they have girlfriends, and even after trying to explain it. Yep, it is always my fault. Pricks), online, and networking someone (getting friends), and going to a local college, and none of them has worked. I would be willing to try and move (not just for this reason, but work), and try over there. In the mean time, I could build up wealth to live off of (stocks and real estate) and then move there. As for bringing her back, I am a tad iffy on that. In addition, as mentioned before, it is one of those things where I feel like I have to tread carefully. I don't want to just marry anyone, but at the same time it does not seem like the current circumstances are all that grand either. I appreciate the input from you and everyone else!

Don't you mean a Thai ladyboy XD .

For me, it will NEVER get better. Because my parents think I am damaged goods, I am agreeing with them on that front.

All I can say is: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", and: "Keep calm and carry on".

Seems to have got better for Alex Plank, he's been hugged by Helen of Troy recently.