Do Aspies ever have "gentle endings" with partners

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She was making an inbred joke. That's what all the other states say about tassie.

I haven't had the pleasure of dating a woman yet, but I'll get around to it one if these days. More likely she dated the one I am still goods friends with - they are the same age and all.

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We have the same jokes about the Isle of Sheppey here in Kent.

The disturbing thing is that in that case it is sufficiently small it is sort of true. I worked there for a while. Everyone knew about half the residents through family connections. And you had people walking about in the streets in their pyjamas...

Agree with the above^

When my ex-husband said he wanted a divorce, that caused me a great deal of pain, anger and sadness.
However, after a few months I adjusted to the idea/situation, and gave him a very amicable divorce with no argument/disagreements.
We are friends on FB, though don't often communicate-but we don't bear each other ill will (our divorce was a decade ago).

Sounds like you were both reasonably "adult" about things.

There is always pain, often mutual, when people split.

I think when younger, people channel the pain into anger and rage and blame - all they know is "I'm feeling pain" - "the other person is source of pain" - thus the other person is at fault. I'm wondering if AS amplifies this.

I haven't involved myself in anything like that...
To my understanding Asperger get along well with cats too. Not just dogs. I love all animals

Out of three dating relationships, two ended with me being hounded and some police interaction. Reflecting back, I think both weren't in love with me but with the role I filled for them.

I tried to remain friends with my 1st girlfriend but we had fights because of our issues & we got back together & broke up again shortly after. I didn't try to remain friends with my 2nd. I figured she kind of needed/wanted her space & I let her know she could always message me when she'd want to chat or anything but it didn't happen. We met on this forum & I posted about relationship stuff alot here & if she read a couple of my post she could of gotten upset. My intent was never to flame her or anything like that but my perspective is that things had been kind of one sided & I was hurt that it ended & she broke up with me despite my best efforts to do everything I could to work on myself & compromise but looking at things now I realize that it was kind of my fault because of my own issues & desperation to keep her because I really loved her & didn't want to lose her so I was willing to do whatever I could to keep her even if it was one sided. I quit stumbling across her post here shortly after we broke up & I hope she didn't feel like she had to leave because of me but she never posted much here before me & she was pretty busy with life at the time. It was better for me thou because my OCD & other issues made it hard for me to quit dwelling on things. I left all the forums me & my 1st girlfriend used abit after we broke up the 2nd time because I knew it was better for me. I didn't do that here because this forum was & still is good for me & I wanted to work on myself more. I researched OCD medications & got on something abit after me & 2nd ex broke up because even thou I was handling things alot better I did not want to keep being hung-up on things & I did not want to risk those problems happening again in any potential future relationships. I got in my 3rd 6months after & I never gotten obsessed with her like I was with my other two thou I am somewhat obsessed but not that extent so I guess I'm doing better. Our relationship does have some problems because of our issues but we love each other,'are a good fit for each other & do what we can to help & work on things.

With the endings where you were hounded. How did you leave at first?

I was dating this guy for a couple of months and it wasn't working, but I was trying to decide whether to break up now, or give it another few days to be sure. He came around to my house and broke up with me. This was great because the feeling was mutual, but what did I do? I put on "devastated face" and said "oh, why???". It was just an impulse, like that was what I was supposed to do! Then I remembered, hang on, this is exactly what I want, and felt happy.

Was weird. And amusing.

The first one was very on again/off again, when it should have stayed off-but I was young and stupid. I broke up with him for the last time after he went to jail..again... The timing was on purpose, because he had a habit of disabling my car whenever we fought.

The second one wasn't a long relationship, but we had known each other casual for a while. That ended with a "this isn't working out" talk. He completely flipped out later on, and would call me constantly twenty times a day. There were a lot of wild accusations thrown at me when I did see him. He had always seemed mild mannered, and easy going too until then.


I was very reserved when I started dating my now husband because I was scared Mr. Hyde was going to jump out one day like a Jack in the box.