Where do smart men hang out?

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The smart ones are usually working. So you can find them at work... I've met some nice men that have come to my house, like painters, electricians, repair man, etc. I didn't make a move at them but some of them have been handsome and very nice.

Do 'smart men' 'hang out' or are they too busy living?

A 'smart man' is motivated and tends to attract no moss unless he is in an obvious social situation such as a party or nite club and even then, a 'smart man' is likely networking.

Scumbags and psychopaths hunt women for sex. Losers troll for women for sex. Smart men are open to opportunity but recognize a trap for what it is.

IMHO, you are asking the wrong question and not asking the right person.

The question you want to ask is, 'Who do I want to be and how do I make myself into that person?'.

Only YOU can answer this.

The guy you are looking for isn't looking for you so much as he is going about his business and doing his thing because smart men don't worry about dates. They worry about building the life they want not about what other people think. It is that drive and that 'devil may care' attitude that makes men attractive and smart men know this.

Smart men tend to want smart women. Smart men can spot a money pit and will avoid her. I married a bookkeeper. I am really good at making money. She is really good at keeping money. Together we talk physics and economics, mathematics and fishing. If the sum total of her interests were fishing or Dancing with the Stars, we wouldn't be a good match and there would be no interest.

Be a smart woman. Gather no moss. Transform yourself into who you want to be. Show the drive, the intelligence, the passion required to be someone.

In doing so, you will put yourself in a position where smart men will find you and you will be the type of woman a smart man sees as an opportunity worthy of pursuit. That is what smart men do.

If they happen to have a hobby, they might be more intellectual hobbies. What about scientific conferences? They might be studying at a university. They also might be working a lot in fields that require intelligence and critical thinking. I think you should concentrate on finding an intelligent man first before thinking about the caring side. You can weed out the uncaring ones once you find the former.

If you can stand to hear the truth you've spoken twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools...Kipling

octobertiger is a knave. I am not a good guy.

My advice is simple but not easy. If you follow my advice you will find hardship but your life will be your own.

Octobertiger is likely both simple and easy.

His is a path for people who want a simple, easy life.


Smart people know the difference.

Smart people know the difference between being personal and commenting on a post - cough.

A smart person doesn't make the mistake of thinking that his life is his own, and that they created themselves.

A smart person doesn't think that he's smart, or anything other than what he is. So, let's drop that divisive term in the bin.

A person will never stick two fingers up to the world and put up high walls, and watch people suffer as he pretends all is rosy in his back garden - which is the easy thing to do.

A person will never quote Kipling, even though he does make exceedingly good cakes.

This what often happens to your 'smart man'.

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Octobertiger your advice is NOT simple, you are speaking in riddles.

Would habitat for humanity be a good idea? Would the volunteers be smart people, or just good? I really do need some one smart enough to talk to. Not sure if habitat for humanity would even want me, I am not handy, all I'd be able to do is paint, I've never used a hammer. But then how would I get to the houses without a car?

Even then how to get to talking to them? I even crash and burn a with people I do know. I asked one of my trivia teammates if he wanted to hang out sometime, he settled his bill and left in a hurry.

I second the above suggestion. I live in a small town and anyone who has anything going for them leaves for better places with more opportunities, *except* people studying for their future at the local JC and state university. Also, there are things like the local state U's physics dept. getting guests and having them give lectures to the public for free (you don't have to register as a student or anything).

Try looking online like Facebook or major dating sites & search by general location & look/search for smart type interests.