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07 Apr 2005, 8:58 pm

Rakkety_Tamm wrote:

we were friends a long time before we started dating, we learned to put our politcal views aside like the day we first met. We might not agree with each other, but we do support each other and encourge each other to have our own opionions. Thats one of the reasons that our relationship works so well. Aye, just like I support her in FPA, she supports me with, well, my metal capaicty in public, or lack there of.

Is she NT or aspie?
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08 Apr 2005, 6:20 am

nethier, she has a metal dissableity but not asperger's syndrome.

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08 Apr 2005, 6:30 am

JayShaw wrote:

You are most likely to form a successful relationship with a person who has similar goals in life as you do. Having similar attitudes toward money is also essential. Most divorces occur as a result of financial matters. Having at least some similar interests is generally preferable, as well. People are usually best paired with mates who are at a relatively similar level of intelligence, as well.

She alot smarter than me, which ain't hard come to think of it, but anyways, but we do have similar goals, fight, eat, sleep, and read. But she wants to be a archeologist, yet I wish to be a band teacher at a high school level.

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08 Apr 2005, 6:33 pm

I used to think of myself as extremely smart because iam an aspie but now maybe not as much as i had thought. I have above average intelligence but i have a tendency to get things wrong. RTs last post put that in my mind.
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09 Apr 2005, 11:08 am

Opposites can certainly attract. Someone completely different from you can be very interesting and even exciting.

Attraction, however, is a far cry from being well suited to form a successful, happy relationship.

I'd say it would depend on what levels they were opposite. Some differences can actually be quite complimentary.

Like Jay mentioned though, there are some levels which you should be able to meet eachother on. I can't imagine being satisfied with a relationship in which the other person couldn't share in the joy of at least some of the same things I did, someone who I couldn't plan a future with, because our planned paths were so decidedly different. How could that last?

Goals, beliefs, passions, and views are pretty important stuff.

(This thread is well timed, by the way. It's a reminder as to why getting back with an ex I've been thinking about too much recently would be a very bad idea.

I'm going to go cry in the shower now.)

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09 Apr 2005, 11:28 am

I'm really sorry if I've upset you.

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09 Apr 2005, 12:22 pm

Not at all. It's good to remember why a relationship didn't work, in order to keep from repeating the same mistake over and over.

It's also good to hear about others finding happiness. This is the first Aspergers Forum I've ever been on. It's comforting to see people struggling with the same things I do, especially when I get to see that they have found some of the things that I'm searching for, as you seem to have.

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09 Apr 2005, 12:34 pm

I have more problems than some people due to my hugenormus ego, but pip is teaching me how 2 tone it down though. I'm glad that you've came here mar, if someone with politcal views such as mine (plus the fact that I wear them on my sleave) can be accpeted here, anyone can.

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09 Apr 2005, 12:45 pm

and a wanksta like me :wink:
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22 Apr 2005, 7:44 pm

Bec wrote:

I think that they can actually. I've never been in a romantic relationship with anyone, but the theory of opposites attracting works in my family.

My mum is, for the most part, entirely opposite to me. She is very NT and sociable (she does have an obsessive personality, though). We've always been really close. I consider her one of my best friends.

My dad, on the other hand, is almost exactly like me. He definitely has ADD, but does have a few AS traits, but he doesn't have AS. The two of us don't get along very well. He is my father, so I love him, but he has all of the traits I hate about myself. I'm currently working on our relationship.

I think that opposites attract to a certain extent. I think that I could only be with someone who is different than myself. If your weaknesses are where their strengths lie, I think that makes a good match.

No, this is dealt with in Freud's psychosexual theory. Id post a copy, but Its easy enough to find with a google search.

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22 Apr 2005, 8:51 pm

BlackLiger wrote:

Bec wrote:

No, this is dealt with in Freud's psychosexual theory. Id post a copy, but Its easy enough to find with a google search.

Actually, I'm familiar with Freud's psychosexual theory. First of all, I don't agree with it. But I think you have assumed that I am male. I am a girl. So according to Freud's theory I should behave oppositely.

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