Mind games and ego trips

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I hope things go well for you too, Turqouise773. I know that that stupid wicked being has hurt you but, those kind of individuals are not worth of it. Also, if we shall die, we'll did by doing something honourable and by doing something we love, not because someone stupid put us down. OliveOilMom, what you've said is interesting.

Interesting first post. Welcome. I see that you have just joined. Why not come on over to the new members section and introduce yourself?

Does anyone know how NTs manage to get together for dates or marriage etc. if they play these mind games.How do they get passed all that.It just messes with my head.Why can't they be more straightforward?

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I've had men like that in my past and it's made me a bit wary now. I just don't get that whole boosting their ego by stringing somone along thing. I thought that their flirting was serious because I only flirt with a man if I feel comfortable with them and actually am attracted to them and want to spend more time with them.

Something happened a few years ago where I was strung along by a whole group of friends, not just the man and I don't think I will ever forgive them for that. They found out I like him and then made out like he liked me to and just led me on, gave me false encouragement. Now I see it for what it was I feel like a fool and feel very hurt. I am angry that I got into that group of "friends" in the first place. I don't know what sort of evil person gets off on messing with someone else's feelings.

That experience has made me overly cautious and I find it hard to trust men. I know not all men are like that, but my quietness seems to make me game to the overly loud and manipulative sort of person. I see through it now, but it took me a while to learn what behaviours to be cautious of. It makes me nervous of revealing my feelings for anyone again, Sometimes I feel like I am safer on my own even if I do get lonely.

What are your hobbies? Sometimes it is good to take yourself away from the negative people and focus on things that you enjoy and will build your self-esteem. Can you join a club that involves that kind of hobby or will help you learn something new and help you meet some new people? Sometimes taking on a new challenge can boost your self esteem.

Don't let these horrible people beat you. You can have a fulfilling life. Don't let them drag you down to their level.

I played a mind game on my GF once. Now THAT was one heck of a ride, especially here on the forums.

Do these people ruin your activities too? If they don't, go do something fun, or just listen to music, watch comedy and laugh. You have to do something fun or this mood you are in won't go away. My social troubles get worse in the winter, no matter how much I enjoy the col, crisp, fresh air. So back on topic, make sure you laugh, the longer you concentrate on these nasty people, the more they can make you feel worse. You can't feel better than being sad without being happy!

Thank you to everyone who replied to my post.