I fell REALLY hard for Autistic man this summer.

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and when I googled "stalking" and did a targeted search in each "front and center" article that popped up in the results, specifiying "autism" and seperately "asperger's". None of them mentioned either of these as of yet.

I am still going through multiple articles, several pages into the results. I am sure I might come across one or two, perhaps as a known condition of one person or another. But rather what I suspect is given the recent "media" attention to the school shooting, this is more the motivator than the articles that I have searched from the results of googling "stalking", which as of yet have not listed ASD nor any HFA as a qualifier for such behavior.

However, "googling" something and "have heard that . . . . " something is common among people with ASD are two completely different sources. Most people are quick to say "found on google" or "googled" right up front, not as a secondary statement of defense for one's previously vague assertions.

And While there are an extreme number of the internet articles that are often inaccurate "hearsay" or down right *BS*, there are just as many valid articles from reputable professional organizations

Again, whether or not your story of events are accurate, you should seek professional help. But please be sure to include your posts, unedited. I think you will be surprised at the professional's reaction (if s/he is a decent professional in the field of psychology).

To Flanmaster:

I was not trying to paint everyone with the same nasty brush (please see my reply. A lot of web sites do, & I had no experience with stalking before this. I again apologize. I agree 100% that whatever this man's issues are, they are probably not related to ASD.)

I never said that "Everyone" was out to get me. I did say that he is a charismatic individual who seems to have quite a following. I'm sure that he tells one story to his male friends, ("She jilted me, the B****!") & another to his family. ("This woman won't stay away from me. Please help me.") Maybe in his own mind both stories are true? I see no other reason for him to still be around so much, esp after a strange car appeared in my driveway for a few weeks. The car was borrowed by my Kid's B.F. from his Mother when his car quit.)

And I doubt from the look of his friends, compared to family, that these 2 groups ever interact. The Mom wears an expensive very conservative tweed suit, & the friends are "Good Ol' Boys". It's pretty easy to play both sides, if you know that they will likely Never compare what they are being told. I've seen that strategy with a lot of folks who are a lot less crazy. (Ie:Con artists)

I am very introverted. I don't have a lot of friends, & don't circulate in the community at all. This made me an easy target. (just like many ASD people.)

Your are probably right about me needing to see a shrink about my "choices".

I probably need to hone my social skills, & my creep detector too. (but to be fair, the creep detector did go off before I got involved, & this was his problem. "No" was the wrong answer to him.)

I have not dated or anything like it in a long time, due to being on call 24/7 for years for my Mother who has multiple handicaps. This has also narrowed my life, & experiences down to nil.
Anyway, chill. I am now better informed, thanks to this board & the people on it & am a better person for it.

Why do you have such a creepy avatar?

is this response necessary?

I don't mind the comment. I just wished she answered my question.

But if you study her posts, you should find that she has made a clear, concerted effort to both skirt and ignore questions that could help one to better understand her.

Sorry if it came out sounding more like a dating web site intro.
Since I'm getting a few "Pro-Stalker biased comments", I just going to go with the more intelligent ones.

Last edited by NinsMom on 28 Nov 2013, 1:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Best I could come up with.. Are you the Mod. here?

I'm not ignoring the ?'s, I'm just ignoring you. You don't really need to understand me, or reply.

Essentially you are offended that I didn't "jump on the band wagon" and agree with you.

Please provide all these "websites that do" in your responses. It will be educational for many of us, especially since the psychological journals disagree with your statement.

You still have not answered how you "discovered" he had AS, you allude to guessing "what made me think . . . ", you first claim that you "heard" these traits about AS, then you changed to "googled".

Thus you suggest you have an inaccurate preconceived bias against AS.

This is eerily very similar to a series of threads that were posted on here a few months ago with a different user name, in which the person came on and literally "Trashed" people with AS while "asking for help".

You eagerly, excitedly agree with any negative comments made that you can add to this person's "Tab", and ignore questions to qualify things. You bristle at anything that might be a question of the sincerity or accuracy of your report, and you have become offensive, alluding to "pro-stalker" comments, etc. Why? Simply because someone disagreed with you or asked you the relevance of a "pro-dating" intro in regards to your post?

Your responses are increasingly supporting to me the theory that you might possibly suffer from extreme paranoia, among other possible conditions. But again, I don't know you, and honestly don't wish to, given your responses, so you'd best be served by seeking out a competent psychiatrist.

But I will not refrain from pointing out the ridiculous appearance of your posts, the inconsistencies, and the antagonistic behavior your posts are starting to convey.

Since by reading Constructive replies, I have the information that I was trying to find out.
"No, this person likely doesn't have ASD". Thanks, that's all I wanted to know.

Thread locked as it doesn't appear to be going anywhere positive.