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12 Dec 2013, 2:33 am

Well, house husbands in the world compete with pandas in rarity, it's not like we men have a lot of choices in that regard...



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12 Dec 2013, 10:24 am

I'm dating (and soon will be living with) a nerdy tomboy. Gender roles are mostly social constructs not rooted in biology so most of these expectations seem entirely arbitrary to me.



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12 Dec 2013, 12:27 pm

I'm not sure why aspies as a demographic would be any more inclined towards gender role biases than average.

For what its worth, I don't really care what any potential partner of mine does or looks like, because they're just not important in determining whether I care for them. Relationships are two way, so you should be free to just act in accordance with what you need to do to keep it going.



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12 Dec 2013, 2:39 pm

TM1337FalconPunch wrote:
I'm not sure why aspies as a demographic would be any more inclined towards gender role biases than average.


Review any number of threads in this subforum you will see a lot of aspies do seem to rebel against gender roles.



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12 Dec 2013, 4:06 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
TM1337FalconPunch wrote:
I'm not sure why aspies as a demographic would be any more inclined towards gender role biases than average.


Review any number of threads in this subforum you will see a lot of aspies do seem to rebel against gender roles.


I think we're less inclined to accept or understand social norms in general, not just gender based ones.



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12 Dec 2013, 10:42 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
TM1337FalconPunch wrote:
I'm not sure why aspies as a demographic would be any more inclined towards gender role biases than average.


Review any number of threads in this subforum you will see a lot of aspies do seem to rebel against gender roles.


And who's to say those that don't rebel against gender roles just don't make threads/posts about it?



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13 Dec 2013, 12:12 pm

Shau wrote:
All I want is a nerdy girl with a cute butt. She can be a total tomboy for all I care!

LOLOLOLOOLOLOLOLOLOLOL................THIS ^


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13 Dec 2013, 7:36 pm

My parents used to insist that I greet other boys with a handshake and girls with a kiss on the cheek. I couldn't (and still can't) see why I should treat them differently. To this day I still insist on handshaking everyone.



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15 Dec 2013, 4:22 am

Personally I always wanted to be a wife and stay at home mom, but I don't believe that is best for every woman nor do I have a problem with men being stay at home dads. As a kid I played more with my brother's ninja turtles than my stupid Barbies. So no, overall I guess not.



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15 Dec 2013, 2:33 pm

carturo222 wrote:
My parents used to insist that I greet other boys with a handshake and girls with a kiss on the cheek. I couldn't (and still can't) see why I should treat them differently. To this day I still insist on handshaking everyone.

Good! I hate being kissed on the cheek :x



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15 Dec 2013, 2:42 pm

I will never allow my wife/girlfriend to cook, except unless she really wanted to or if it was a special occasion. That's about the biggest gender role expectation I want.

Other than that in a relationship I can imagine doing most of the laundry and the cleaning, since I hold a near religious belief that laundry must be done at least every week,



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15 Dec 2013, 7:55 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:
carturo222 wrote:
My parents used to insist that I greet other boys with a handshake and girls with a kiss on the cheek. I couldn't (and still can't) see why I should treat them differently. To this day I still insist on handshaking everyone.

Good! I hate being kissed on the cheek :x


Same here! The idea of some guy I barely know kissing me makes my skin crawl!



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15 Dec 2013, 8:45 pm

No, obviously I'm happy to take care of stuff like fixing things/heavy lifting/spider removal but then I also cook and do my own laundry etc. Besides, a lot of the women I know can't cook to save their lives looooool.


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16 Dec 2013, 5:47 am

ReaperDan84 wrote:
No, obviously I'm happy to take care of stuff like fixing things/heavy lifting/spider removal but then I also cook and do my own laundry etc. Besides, a lot of the women I know can't cook to save their lives looooool.

Why obviously?



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16 Dec 2013, 4:35 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:
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No, obviously I'm happy to take care of stuff like fixing things/heavy lifting/spider removal but then I also cook and do my own laundry etc. Besides, a lot of the women I know can't cook to save their lives looooool.

Why obviously?


I think it was a matter of punctuation, as in: "No; obviously, I'm happy..." as a way of saying "I like to do these things, of course."

(Sorry, yellowtamarin and ReaperDan 84; I'm a bit of a grammar Nazi!)



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16 Dec 2013, 6:13 pm

LucySnowe wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
ReaperDan84 wrote:
No, obviously I'm happy to take care of stuff like fixing things/heavy lifting/spider removal but then I also cook and do my own laundry etc. Besides, a lot of the women I know can't cook to save their lives looooool.

Why obviously?


I think it was a matter of punctuation, as in: "No; obviously, I'm happy..." as a way of saying "I like to do these things, of course."

(Sorry, yellowtamarin and ReaperDan 84; I'm a bit of a grammar Nazi!)

Yeah, I'm wondering why it would be a given that he would be happy to do those things. This is a thread about gender roles/expectations after all.