Guys, did dating get easier after college?

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You guys are right, I just need to find some activity groups and get out of my comfort zone more. My chances, present and future are limited in school because of the ratios; and there isn't a chance in hell that I'll switch back to nursing just to change that.

look outside your school. no one checks id's at clubs. I went to an engineering college with a 8:1 ratio. The school occasionally held meet n greets at an all girls school / dances and such. However right down the road was a public college with parties and whatnot. If I had gone to the other schools student req dept and gotten a club list and gone to the interest clubs: no one would have ever known the difference.

Coffee shops are where people who need space to themselves, internet, and aren't intentionally avoiding socializing go to study. (whereas talking to girls in libraries might be kinda rude). Bars have a much wider age range so if that matters to you, they are might be a good choice or not.

It really is a matter of getting out there, usually you aren't going to meet new girls on your couch (least not on the first date).

I recommend planning on a "putting myself out there" routine. where you spend a certain amount of time out and about. If you are out looking to meet people they are going to be a little weirded out. Instead research places that seem like good date locations and go explore them with the intent of enjoying them alone, and once you are in a good place emotionally and have enjoyed YOURSELF, then you can chase a couple skirts (figuratively, if they are running: stop!). This will simultaneously introduce you to new people and let you familiarize yourself with good spots so when you do get around to asking someone out you have an idea of where to go, and possibly a diverse enough set of experiences to tailor the date to the individual's interests.

I would also make a point to just talk to, say 5 random strangers regardless of date-ability. make an observation about the date location ("I love the way the swamp gas glints in the moonlight!"), compliment them ("nice sweater, is that cashmere?"): something ("did you know peanuts aren't nuts? They are Legumes... why are you running!") This will be awkward as hell, but lower pressure than trying to actually flirt and by having achievable finite goals you can turn the experience into a game.