How do you date women when you have to compete with NTs

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"be you".

Who else one would be? Alexander the Great?

Whenever I hear "dating tips", it basically sounds to me like people are saying "don't do what you normally would do; don't act like yourself; act like what you think other people will find appealing".

Boy, wouldn't that be a great union if it works into marriage, and then the buyer's remorse settles in.

That's why I just say "be you".

So it's ok if I scratch my ass in public?

Let me give you the biggest tip in the world that I could ever give anybody:

regardless of whether or not you scratch your ass in public, you're probably getting the same reaction from people as though you just had.

I realized ages ago: no matter what I do, I essentially get the same general reaction; i.e. I'm not well-liked. So, if I'm not well-liked no matter what the hell I do...why should I care what anybody thinks? I'd rather just be me, and have fun.

That's what I do. And you know what? I get results from that. A lot of people do like me now, and when I'm more focused I have been known to draw the attention of the ladies, even if I'm not trying to.

I'm just having fun being me; yes, the negative aspects are still there, but the positive ones shine thru, because of an air of self confidence I seem to give off.

That's what it comes down to.

LOL. I concur. We can fake it, for a while (it's a tiring, it doesn't always work and it's simply not us) and when they do figure out what we are like, there's a huge risk there.

If you're simply being yourself, then at the end of the day you may be alone, but you're still "to thine own self be true"

I couldn't imagine trying for 3 years or even 3 months being who I'm not if I was "dating" someone.

Three days? Sure, I've gone without showers for longer.

But why would you want to? You don't want them falling for a fictional product; you want them falling for you.

I think for many here, there is a certain threshold of being starved for companionship and the (artificial?) belief that by acting like a NT or someone else, they are likely to get the companionship they want.

And it may work, for a while.

There is also the "hope" that if the person would simply "get past" the outward issues, that the other party would see the inner worth, and be able to put up with the indelicate BS that comes with who they are.

Loneliness is a huge driver for many here. And like an itch they're trying to scratch, they may scratch too hard and still not find the comfort they want/need.

Hey, I'm extremely lonely, but if companionship means pretending to be someone I'm not, when it comes down to it, I'm just as lonely, my self-respect is gone, and I'm with a partner who doesn't really love me....sorta like my experience with my ex!

And no, I wasn't the one pretending.

Eh, I've always found NT men to be less competition and more a background for me to stand out from, just a different way of looking at it.

I love this

I actually tried meetup.com to form groups of animated sitcom aficionados, but nobody signed up. If a group ever materialized, it would likely be all guys.

There are so few women who like shows such as the Simpsons and South Park that I find myself tolerating behaviors I wouldn't normally tolerate (i.e. emotional abuse, them fooling around with married men, etc.)

How do you date men when you have to compete with NT's?

You....still tolerate Simpsons at this point?

Wow dude.

And btw, love has pretty much nothing to do with that specifically; just sayin'.

I tolerate it very much. They're starting their 26th season next fall, and they've been on longer than any scripted show in prime-time.

But why is having the same interests bad?

You must be meeting the wrong women or be in a different age group than me because 90% of the women I know LOVE some sort of adult animated comedy be in Family Guy, South Park, King of the Hill etc.
Most love South Park and Family Guy but there's several I know that like all of them.

I've never met a woman who doesn't like watching one of those adult cartoons.

My favorites are Beavis and Butthead,King of the Hill,Inyuasha,and The Boondocks.