12 Feb 2014, 11:28 am
12 Feb 2014, 11:34 am
But I didn't mean it as a cruel joke. I meant it to cheer her up.
Can we drop this subject now and get back to the thread? I didn't expect so many people to hone in on my post and comment on it. The reason I posted it was as an example of what NOT to do. I think we're all in agreement that what I did isn't a good idea, so can we stop discussing it now? It's making me feel upset. I meant well, I really did. It was not my intention to be cruel or hurt her. It was my intention to make her feel special and happy. Please can we stop talking about it? As I've said, I vowed never to send anonymous things again, so you don't need to bother telling me not to do it again. I already learned that. Thank you.
12 Feb 2014, 12:24 pm
12 Feb 2014, 12:34 pm
12 Feb 2014, 1:11 pm
12 Feb 2014, 1:19 pm
Begin the countdown to this:
12 Feb 2014, 1:44 pm
13 Feb 2014, 2:56 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
thumbhole wrote:
I tried doing this for somebody years ago and it went spectacularly wrong. If you do send someone a Valentine to cheer them up, make sure you don't do it anonymously!
My sister was crying her eyes out over a break-up and was having very low self-esteem. I sent her some flowers and a teddy bear anonymously, and stressed with the florist the importance of not giving away who they were from. I wanted my sister to think they were from a secret admirer.
My sister cheered up remarkably, but unfortunately she and her best friend started doing some detective work to try and find out who had sent the flowers. They started to formulate a theory that the flowers were from my sister's best friend's brother.
Things got rather awkward from his point of view, so I phoned my sister and confessed that the flowers had actually been from me.
I was expecting her to be appreciative of the fact that I had wanted to cheer her up and had spent all that money on her and didn't want her to feel sad. Instead, she was angry to find that her best friend's brother didn't have a crush on her after all, and she had been made to look foolish by asking him if the flowers were sent by him.
She took it out on me. She raged and ranted angrily at me in tears, and said things like: "how COULD you? How could you do such an awful thing?"
I will never understand NT logic. Apparently, sending your sister expensive anonymous flowers because you think she's awesome and want to cheer her up = "an awful thing."
Be careful. If you try to cheer somebody up on Valentine's Day out of the kindness of your heart, you may be accused of being a hurtful nasty scumbag.
After this hurtful experience I vowed never to send anonymous Valentines ever again (unless, of course, I really mean them. There's nothing wrong with sending an anonymous Valentine to somebody you genuinely like, but sending one to someone you don't have a crush on may seem kind, but will only generate false hopes).
My sister was crying her eyes out over a break-up and was having very low self-esteem. I sent her some flowers and a teddy bear anonymously, and stressed with the florist the importance of not giving away who they were from. I wanted my sister to think they were from a secret admirer.
My sister cheered up remarkably, but unfortunately she and her best friend started doing some detective work to try and find out who had sent the flowers. They started to formulate a theory that the flowers were from my sister's best friend's brother.
Things got rather awkward from his point of view, so I phoned my sister and confessed that the flowers had actually been from me.
I was expecting her to be appreciative of the fact that I had wanted to cheer her up and had spent all that money on her and didn't want her to feel sad. Instead, she was angry to find that her best friend's brother didn't have a crush on her after all, and she had been made to look foolish by asking him if the flowers were sent by him.
She took it out on me. She raged and ranted angrily at me in tears, and said things like: "how COULD you? How could you do such an awful thing?"
I will never understand NT logic. Apparently, sending your sister expensive anonymous flowers because you think she's awesome and want to cheer her up = "an awful thing."
Be careful. If you try to cheer somebody up on Valentine's Day out of the kindness of your heart, you may be accused of being a hurtful nasty scumbag.
After this hurtful experience I vowed never to send anonymous Valentines ever again (unless, of course, I really mean them. There's nothing wrong with sending an anonymous Valentine to somebody you genuinely like, but sending one to someone you don't have a crush on may seem kind, but will only generate false hopes).
Well, dude...this has nothing to do with NT/AS conflict.
What you did was plain stupid.
lol
