Afraid of women?

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No.

so put up a wall of emotion and never talk about your feelings?

yeah cause i've never heard women complain about how their guys wont open up to them and its hurting the relationship.

Guess it depends on what kind of female friends you have. If they're douchebags then yeah they'll be numb to your feelings and put you in the friend zone.

I was friends with my girlfriend at the time's best friend. My gf's best friend was the one that was there for me when I found out my girlfriend had been cheating on me. She let me whine, cry, piss, moan then the next day we watched movies, ate pizza and made out a few hours later. LOL.

But normally a little bit of sad feelings and whining is normal when you're dumped and the female friends don't mind. Most of the time I'm not even around my female friends during that period, just male friends. They usually solve everything with a case of beers and video games. It works pretty well. Of course sometimes they try to convince me to accompany them out on the town to get laid. That never works well.
But the female friends I've been around were always understanding and it never affected their view of me.

It would, however, if you don't let it go. If you're the type of person who continues to whine constantly weeks and months afterwards nonstop, then yeah, that would make almost anyone's view on a person change for the worse.
I've had a few friends like that and I usually just wind up avoiding hanging out with them because it's annoying, and I'm talking when they're going on about it months afterwards. I'll be like, "hey, go out and date other women or go out and get laid, or write a letter to your ex for closure. Do SOMETHING so you can move the eff on and STFU about it."
I wouldn't literally say it like that, but the message is the same. If they don't and keep talking about it 24/7 then I just don't hang out with them much anymore. Usually what winds up happening with those guys is they will start dating someone else.

If you sell coke for a living, you can do whatever, have any, or as many girls as you want. Women like all that gangster mode, sons of anarchy crap. There are a few good ones who don't, but you don't need to think about those. If you wind up in prison, you will loose everything, and they will take whatever they can get, so make the best of it.

This is not advice, or a suggestion.

If you do not want to be afraid of women, when you know you should be, I would suggest supressing some thoughts, and emotions somehow, and just diving in with both feet. most people get really drunk. You can do something stupid, because that is what people do. When you do that, it is a good idea to not have a conscience about it, otherwise you will dwell, and make youself nuts.

I used to go to a bar alone, where there is alot of women. Sit at the bar, look into space, pretend I'm actually watching one of those stupid ball games, or doodle with my phone or something. Food is nice to have around too, and mind my own buisness. That was easy. Must not have been too good of an idea, because I don't do it anymore, and I'm still single. The tramps were fun for a while, I was one too. If you do that, don't sit next to any old drunkard idiots, other men, or those women that are dying to get attention from every guy in the bar. They will just screw with your chi, and nothing will happen. Night clubs ar good too, if you can handle all that stuff going on. Just blank it out.

You know what helps me not fear women socially as much? Weed.

It's okay, I agree that women are scary but they are human just like males. Some women hurt men just like some men hurt women.
Plus, the roles could be reversed, girls could think you are pretending to love them, using them and dumping them or nice one minute but when they move in, you could be abusive and manipulative.

Obviously I don't think you are any of the things I said but sometimes the fears you have about women might be something that women fear about guys anyway.
I can understand that you have insecurities but does that mean you shouldn't acknowledge their existence. The right person will help with those insecurities but not when you think this way of people. While some people are bad, that doesn't mean this world is void of any goodness as there is a chance beyond the horizon that you are not seeing.

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Basic instincts. Males and females live in separate packs and feel awkward around each other.

Nice. They always care for me when they dump me. Sometimes it is very difficult for them. We remain friends. With the exception of the last two. I ran away. Far far away. I'm sure most difficulties come from the fact that I want to be left alone alot. My mind is on other things. Ignorance is bliss. It is also lonely. 42 and never changed a diaper. YAY!! !!

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Reminder: Keep the conversation civil. No personal attacks or insults.

Guys should be afraid of women, they bleed like crazy every month for 7 days and just don't die.

Indeed. It is only their sheer stupidity that makes them brazenly disregard their own lives with careless abandon.

I dont know why but this made me laugh!

Welcome to the club, sorry but Dan is currently dealing with a similar problem and cannot help you at the time.
Please leave a message at the mental breakdown. Arrghhh!

The fear thing can be both beneficial and detrimental, if things are already going down the john you can ask if your acting wierd. Or will that just make it worse? In all honesty, its just a postulate.

I just hope the next woman I get with if I ever do isn't abusive or controlling or manipulative. I want to be able to trust someone again I really do and I wish I could let my guard down but im afraid very much it hurts being heart broken and every time it happens I fear I will no longer have a heart! I am frightened I probably shouldnt be but I am and I know I shouldnt be so paranoid and assume the next woman is out to get me and destroy me but those fears creep up on me and I have to keep fighting those fears and reassure myself not everyone is like my ex and that every thing is going to be all right! Its an internal battle in my mind right now.

I once had a wife that was much the same, but you will never get past her unless you open your self up to new experiences with new partners. .but realize, over 70% of the time its the woman who ends a relationship. and if your really insecure in your self your liable to get dumped again because of it. women don't like insecure men because it will make you seem weak needy and clingy. and another thing you need to realize (and I love this phrase because it explains so much), consider women the employer and the men the unemployed, they turn down so many offers they seem to become numb to how it makes men feel, which gives them lots of practice and lack of sensitivity when it comes to dumping or rejecting men.

My ex-wife was a rapid cycling bipolar and schizo affective and refused taking her medications then blamed me for everything. she was much like what you described. the only reasons I stayed with her for nearly 14 years was because I was alone for nearly 30 years before that and was terrified of going back to that lonely existence, that and we had a son that I was afraid of losing, and rightly so, she alienated him from me once the relationship was over. she was vary evil to me, but to say anything to anyone, esp women, they look at you as if it must have been your fault because they consider men the likely abuser or that its something wrong with you, when thats far from the truth, part of the problem was I was to passive and she took advantage of that in mean ways.

I been in a couple other relationships before, if you can call them that.

Once when I was roading (chasing concerts) around the country this one girl thought it must be a kind of magical glamorous life, I warned her it was a hard life but she wanted to try anyways, so I took her from the east coast to the wast coast, with a few stops in-between to work up extra cash and for layovers between concerts, as soon as we left the east coast she did nothing but rag on me, and less then a month into the relationship she started hitting me ALLOT, by the time we got to the west coast 3 months later I felt like I was going to explode on her, so the next concert we gone to I dumped her there. I never knew a woman can be such a rag till I met her.

Then there was this other girl, this lasted about a little over a month, she was nice and all, fooled me into thinking she was interested in a relationship just to get a free baby sitter out of me, told me she was going to work all the time, which in part was true, but only for me to find out she was also using that time to go dating other men.

I had this one lady friend, I really liked her, just not in a romantic relationship way, we knew each other for a couple years, never lived together, then one day she just wanted me to lay her, so I was like, well, sure its been a long time and this could be fun. it totally ruined our friendship because she wanted more then to be friends after that and I couldnt do it. she had to many issues that I didn't want to deal with, although she was a nice friend to go visit.

And there was one where while I was with her, she got pregnant, then started going off on me about how she was still in love with some dead guy in her past, I at first thought it was because of hormone changes from being pregnant, then later with one of her bosses from work she got a crush on, then in the end found a new guy then she dumped me to go chasing after him. we were together for almost 2 years.

And my last relationship, the woman was being semi abusing to my son by screaming around the home how much she hated him to where he could hear it, and he was only 6 then. and it was all because she couldnt stand small children, even abandoned her own when they was his age only to want them back when they got older. and she was kinda jealous of my sons mother being in the background of our lives. I told her from the vary start me and my son was a package deal, so I had to give her the boot after being with her for about a year. to bad too, she was otherwise interesting and fun.

By the way, those so called relationships are not all in order.

But since then, I did kind of have a semi relationship, it was long distance though, she would have had to travel about half a world away to come be with me, she would have had to give up everything, and I couldnt let her do that. I would feel awful if she came and it didn't work out for us, she would be stuck like a fish out of water with no way back home nor even a home to goto. I couldnt do that too her, but otherwise I really liked her, we were talking over cam-video almost every day for many months. I miss her at times.

Its a numbers game, you cant win if you never try, and you will get a few lumps along the way.
my biggest issue is I am getting old, and nothing is lasting, and I don't think I can be what woman wants anymore.
I have to many baggage issues of my own for them to want to deal with, and I don't blame them.