Mordy wrote:
Desperation is attaching to much of you self to an outcome, i.e. trying to hard, having unrealistic firm expectations of what the outcome should be.
Real "Desperation" is trying to hard to get into a womans pants after she's made it clear that she's not interested, and then you act in a whiny way .. you act like she is a potential wife and you throw a fit like she was the only woman in the world.... thats desperate
Interesting; If a desperate person behaves like this, we must come to the conclusion that it must work sometimes. And it is the best option that a desperate person has at that given time.
We do have to acknowledge that there are environmental changes that as happened since hunter-gatherer times. And how they might have a bearing on the why the weakness of appearing desperate is so common.
Living in big cities with lots of people is either going to favour or hinder desperate people compared to the small tribes of the hunter-gatherer. But as yet, I don’t know what the effects would be.
one big issue with our environment today is how monogamy is kinda strictly socially imposed, starting up freverently in the victorian ages... whereas it wasn't so in several cultures of our distant and not so distant ancestors/co inhabitors on this planet...
hence a lot of desaparate people sitting alone in their houses in big cities, AS or NT...
though with the increase of divorce... you could argue monogomy is on its way out and that we're actually in a state of sequential polygomy as it is.
20 Feb 2007, 4:12 pm
