Why a lot of you ladies don't give chance to shorter guys?

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Back in the 80's I dated a guy shorter than me (I am 5'5"). He had a theory which he acted on and I think he was right. He thought that shorter height triggered maternal feelings in women (because women are taller than their sons until their sons mature) which are incompatible with romantic feelings. He acted on this theory by wearing a beard and moustache for that full-grown-man look.

When he told me this I had to admit that without the beard and moustache he would look more like a kid and I might not consider him. Here's where everybody gets to tsk-tsk based on my other post about the acceptability of judging on looks, but we only lasted for a few months in any case.

The short men who seem to have the most romantic success are the ones who have scrubbed away any appearance of youthfulness from themselves. Like the guy I dated with his beard and moustache.

If there's any influence it's probably gender roles and gender stereotypes.

But there are plenty of women who are happy with dating shorter men. And some women too who are into that specifically.

I think that when things like this are a problem for anyone, it's because of gender stereotypes. But again there are always people who go against their prescribed gender roles. And there are plenty of people who are open minded. Plenty of people like tall women and short men and so forth. And there are as many things that people are attracted to as there are body types.

It can be hard. But it isn't worth conforming to social standards and gender roles anyway.

Be you. Unfortunately not everyone will be attracted to that. But someone will.
You can't help how tall you are(at least not yet at least, though I have heard there are dangerous surgeries to change height).
But there will always be plenty of people who find you attractive, no matter what body type you have.

Don't be someone else's body dream. Be your own.

Height is not an issue for most women I know. I can't think of any woman I've known who has NOT dated guys shorter than herself (with the exception of one friend who is 4'10"). For myself, I don't "date" per se, but I've had at least semi-serious relationships with three men who were shorter than me.

If I had to venture a guess, I'd say it's likely that height (or lack thereof) is not as off-putting as you think it is. OTOH, blaming the opposite gender for one's own lack of success with that gender is probably the most unattractive thing anyone can do.

No one is getting the joke of this thread...

Hint: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt258917.html.

I was being satirical all the way

For those who replied to support, thanks anyway even tho I didn't need it, my dating problem isn't height, it is just a disadvantage.

I'd date a man shorter than me,but I've only seen a few.

I can't seem to find a sexy rexy,all extinct.