Do you get angry when aspies of your desired sex date NTs?

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No, I haven't dated someone who is on the spectrum before. I've dated guys both of and not of my ethnic group, and other types of neurodiverse people, though, such as bipolar folk. The ASD community is very small, it's not like there's an autistic equivalent of Little Italy or something where people from that group tend to shop and hang out.

I'm absolutely amazed there are no hangouts for autistic people. However, the various sensitivities may make it very tough for some people.

Aspies who find other aspies to date are the exception. Not the rule.

Not at all. People should all date who they choose to, regardless of "labels".

I'm surprised no-one has come in here and complained about it, as I've seen it on here a lot. Maybe those posters don't reply purposely.

I wouldn't be surprised if any of the men here didn't KNOW a woman on the autistic spectrum. Frankly, I've never been able to stand being around the male ones I know, because their behavior is so consistently cringeworthy that I don't want to be associated with it. I'm just thankful that I'm self-aware enough to avoid some of the more common pitfalls, even if I still have enough of the negative traits left over to make my life pretty terrible in general.

1. no
2. how would they know if the person is on the spectrum
3. I've only met one and she was quite rude, so I guess maybe I'd prefer not to to date a aspie o.O that and I seek to be normal so being with a aspie would only make that harder.

Well that would be stupid. That'd be like getting angry because someone you fancy who shares the same allergies as you dated someone without those allergies. It's hardly a good reason to date someone.

I agree with both. I think it's great that us Aspies are able to get in a relationship with NTs but feel bad for fellow Aspies when those relationships go bad for whatever reason. I also feel bad when Aspie/Aspie relationships go bad & feel good when they go rite. Ultimately I want everyone to be happy & be in a good relationship if they desire one.

The answer is no. I've dated NTs myself.

Yeah, but the thing to remember about that is that no matter the diagnosis, you're still a unique individual. Just because I have Aspergers doesn't mean I'll be a perfect clone of an AS woman 200 miles away or a guy next door with it. While you may share tendencies with them that will make you more understanding of why they do things, ultimately they're still people and so it shouldn't matter if you have AS or if you're NT when you're in a relationship. It should just matter how much the other person makes you happy.

I don't really care. This reminds me of a conversation I had with my ex-boyfriend. I was telling him that I want to make some NT friends and he said that "We ret*ds need to stick together." I don't like that attitude at all.

No.

Other people's business is other people's business.

I can't imagine my son having the right yin and yang with a full blown Apsie girl, but if he finds one, good for them.

Finding someone you are compatible with involves a unique balance of shared interests and traits, and offsetting ones, so that the pair is stronger than the individuals. Hard to say what that looks like for any one person until you see it.

I don't care who dates who really, as long as no ones dating the person I'm crushing on. lol