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onewithstrange
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27 May 2014, 9:42 pm

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Giftorcurse:

As hard a pill as it may be to swallow, you can't use women's treatment of you as an excuse to keep feeling the way you do about them. I used to get bullied in school and it took me over a decade to get over it and start trusting people again. How did I manage? By realizing that I was treated badly by individuals, not society at large. Every new woman you meet doesn't have access to the same perceptions that other women (the ones who didn't give you respect) have had about you, unless you first give them those perceptions. The old adage is true: Whatever comes around, goes around. I know it's hard not making sweeping generalizations about women when all or most of your experiences have been rotten, but when it comes right down to it, being negative and\or angry about it will never help your chances of getting a positive experience. You have to choose to let things slide and move on. The only thing you ought to worry about changing is your outlook. It will take time and effort but it's not impossible.

Ah, I see. The forgive and forget attitude. Well, listen here... I don't forgive or forget.

Do you even want help? I gave you solid advice. So long as you keep choosing to hold grudges, you will keep being single.

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27 May 2014, 9:43 pm

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Ah, I see. The forgive and forget attitude. Well, listen here... I don't forgive or forget.

Don't forgive anyone. If you've been mistreated by the women you've been with, to hell with those women. However, you don't want to go incriminating all women just because some of them did terrible things to you. Don't let a few sh***y women spoil all of them for you, or all you've got ahead of you is a life of lonely bitterness.

I've been down that road...it ain't pretty, matey.

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27 May 2014, 9:55 pm

I'd recommend investing some time trying to make and talk with female friends, even if it's just online, like on Wrong Planet. This kind of practice will help you feel more confident and comfortable talking with women, which will, in time, increase your odds of getting a girlfriend. It might also help you see we're just people, too.

I know you're in a bad place right now. I'm female, but social stuff definitely doesn't come easily to me, either, and I have been treated badly by the opposite sex on many occasions, too. (Treated very badly and hurt horribly, actually). It can be really hard, but letting bitterness eat you up will just make it harder. I hope things start looking up for you, in time.

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27 May 2014, 10:02 pm

You can't get a girl AND be angry because you haven't gotten one sooner. You also can't expect to get girls without being prepared to change something about yourself. All the girls who've rejected you have one thing in common: you.

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27 May 2014, 10:18 pm

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Idealistic rubbish.

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27 May 2014, 10:21 pm

Why did you even make this thread? lol

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27 May 2014, 10:29 pm

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Why did you even make this thread? lol

Some men are more content to piss and moan than lift a finger to improve their situations. I'd say let this clown rot in his misery, but he might decide to pick up a gun some day and shoot innocent people.

That's not what you've got planned...right OP? Ok ok, I'll give you the advice you're looking for:

The reason you aren't getting women is because they're all HORRIBLE b*****s that only go out with DOUCHEBAGS and ALPHA MALES! But don't worry! For a few hundred bucks, you can attend one of our PICK UP ARTIST classes and learn how to put those dumb sluts in their place, upon which you'll be DROWNING IN p****! Sign up today!

[Autistic hint: The above paragraph was LOTS of sarcasm.]

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27 May 2014, 10:37 pm

cathylynn wrote:

whoever is telling you to take steroids is not using common sense.

It's the stupidest advice I've ever heard.

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27 May 2014, 10:49 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:

People say that I just need to be confident, change clothes, take steroids, etc. Sometimes, I get the feeling I have to be an utterly psychopathic barbarian just to please someone of the opposite sex. Ruthless, callous, vicious. After all, they get ahead in society.

How do you really get a women?

Start working towards something. Women like men that are working towards something and they can fantasize about. Women also like a guy that they can brag about to their friends. Can they brag about you for any reason? Being gentle and nice doesn't command respect.. It might be a good quality to the right girl but in this world we value each other using a system.

For guys- looks, job, assets, personality, potential

For women- looks & personality

It really depends on how you look. That will determine what type of girls are attracted to you and then you need to make sure your personality is in order. Make sure you have an edge. Can't be too nice or will get no respect.

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27 May 2014, 10:53 pm

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(Note: It is not necessary to complete these steps in order, or finish them completely before moving onto the next.)

Step 1: Work out a bit. NO STEROIDS, just healthy food and LOTS of it.
Step 2: Develop some interesting hobbies.
Step 3: Work on your social skills by reading books on the subject, and going out and socializing (Don't forget the second part).
Step 4: Learn to dress well. Buy some decent clothes (Doesn't have to be expensive ones, just make sure they aren't worn, full of holes, etc). There's lots of places to get second-hand clothes that are in excellent shape for really cheap, check out second hand stores.
Step 5: Shave regularly or keep a regularly-trimmed and groomed beard. Get a decent haircut. Brush your teeth and shower every day.
Step 6: Get yourself financially sorted. You don't gotta be rich, just have your finances in order. Don't recklessly spend money. Have a couple thousand in savings. It helps a lot.
Step 7: Get yourself emotionally sorted. Learn to find your zen. You'll need to work through your emotional issues cause neurotypicals, especially women, will sense it like a neon sign hanging over your head.

#3 is the real problem however... thats precisely the part where AS F's things up.

The rest is sage, functional advise.

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27 May 2014, 10:57 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:

onewithstrange wrote:

Ah, I see. The forgive and forget attitude. Well, listen here... I don't forgive or forget.

Run, don't walk, RUN to your closest psychologist/psychiatrist. I'm not even being snide.

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27 May 2014, 11:18 pm

Inthewind336 wrote:

Giftorcurse wrote:

i respect my husband exactly because he is gentle and nice. i went with a bad boy once. i was miserable. yes, there was a certain excitement, but nothing that made me feel safe enough to stay in the relationship. my husband and i just had our fifth anniv. he says he has never been happier. his gentleness and niceness makes me want to return the favor.

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27 May 2014, 11:24 pm

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Run, don't walk, RUN to your closest psychologist/psychiatrist. I'm not even being snide.

Either that, or try for a homosexual experience if women are so repulsive.

(men have lower standards)

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27 May 2014, 11:44 pm

Pobbles wrote:

TheGoggles wrote:

Run, don't walk, RUN to your closest psychologist/psychiatrist. I'm not even being snide.

Either that, or try for a homosexual experience if women are so repulsive.

(men have lower standards)

Wow....... lol

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28 May 2014, 12:00 am

If she likes you enough let her come to you!

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28 May 2014, 12:05 am

Ask for a date.

If she says no, move on.

There'll be one that says yes.

It's not hard. People overthink it.

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