why can't I get Good GF

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Maybe they're just being conservative.

So much win in this post.

Bill needs a lot of work on his social skills if he's going to attract a "good," girlfriend.

Just remember, Bill, you get what you give.. you reap what you sow.. what you put out there is reflected back at you.. so, if you don't like the way she's behaving towards you, stop and take a good critical analytical look at yourself and the way you behave and see if you can identify what it is about you, your words, your actions, your behaviours etc that would elicit such undesirable responses from others. If you want someone else to treat you better, you'll have to treat them better first.

it's not me. I do everything right in the relationship.Hopefully
I will find a more quality GF in the future.

You're confusing self-deception for confidence. As for everyone else, it's pretty obvious what's going on. And no, we're not convinced.

As long as you have that attitude and perception of yourself and the situation you won't improve yourself nor get a more quality GF in the future.

Many people think that relationship faults are 50/50, but in reality our relationships with others are 100% our own responsibility. 100%. If you embrace that and take a step back and look at yourself and see what actions you can make to improve yourself, your attractiveness, your treatment of others, your social skills - everything - then you'll be setting yourself up for success in attracting someone of higher quality all around. But if you remain the same and refuse to acknowledge that you have any room for improvement, then you'll do as you've always done and get as you've always gotten - attracting the same type of women you're not happy with.

Up to you, Bill, as it's your life.. but IMO the sooner you drop the attitude that you do everything right and it's all someone else' fault that you don't have what you desire in a partner, the sooner you'll be on the path to happiness in a relationship. You may not be able to see it, but as someone else posted links to some of your previous posts... you're not exactly Mr. Smooth with the ladies in terms of social interactions and have a LOT to learn & practice before you should confidently say that you're doing everything right and it must be the other person as to why you don't have a good relationship.

Yeah,lousy GF and quasi-GF are better than none at.Plus
I do love her.so,I don't hate her.Or my other lady friend
who Im still somewhat with. Of course I love my girlfriend,
lady friend...They are just not good quality GF..

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A Valkyrie has all these qualities.

But if she gets mad, she'll slay you.

Again I don't hate My GF or my lady friend,I love both of them.
I just get Upset that their just Lousy GF's. I want a good quality
GF or Lady friend.They are good,good ladies just not good
GF's.Understand,now... I just want the best for them,and
want them to do better

Are you sleeping with both? Does each know that you're sleeping with another?

Can you elaborate as to what makes them "Lousy GF's" ?? Maybe if you could communicate that better we'd understand you a bit better.

now, isn't confidence the mind set that you are great at what ever you do and make no mistakes. isn't confidence what people find attractive?

Ok,lady friend aka GF#3.Goes from very Affectionate to
''leave me alone'' and she's always ''tired'' I want to
hang out and do stuff but she's always tired. it's annoying.
She's says she My GF,yet she always too tired to do
anything. She's is 50 year old.and she doesn't live
very ''clean''.her apartment is very nasty.and she has
alot of problems.She gets bullied alot. I don't understand
why she wants to date,if she doesn't put in any effort.

GF#4,says she's my GF(remember both's are claiming
to be my GF)but she acts like a friends,it's like were
just friends.Plus she lives in another city(none of us drives)
so which Adds another problem.So,yes both are lousy GF.
(if you can call them that)

and they choose me.They asked me out,kissed me first,
told me they are my GF. They are better as ''quasi''GF,

both are female co-workers.So basically Im in a work
relationship,I guess.I want someone better than them.

No. Confidence isn't the belief that you are great at whatever you'd o and make no mistakes. That's arrogance. I know many confident people that are always willing to admit they've made a mistake and are willing to learn from them, even thanking others for correcting them/teaching them something new/better.

Yes, people find confidence attractive. But Bill isn't displaying confidence. He's coming across as arrogant without the ability to justify feeling socially/relationship superior because he has displayed his lack of social skills quite transparently & it's obvious to anyone reading this thread, or the ones linked, that he cannot possibly be doing everything right and thus it's the GF's fault alone that things aren't great in their relationship. If he were in fact such a social & relationship success story then it would be abundantly clear in his posts that he deserved to be able to say he's confident that it's not him that's the problem. But it's blatantly obvious that he's somewhat socially inept and has a lot of work to do if he actually wants to be a good boyfriend and attract a "quality," girlfriend.

BS,read my post above.I do everything right,it's them who are the problem.
I didn't ask them,I didn't choose them.They choose me,they declare they
are My girlfriend. Yet,they suck at it. They are good ''quasi''Girlfriend.
so,why don't I deserve better than them.

Ok. It makes a little more sense now as to why neither is an ideal GF.

Personally, I wouldn't date either of them if there wasn't better compatibility than that. I wouldn't consider either of them my girlfriend, either. I'd consider it that I went on a couple dates with them and tested the relationship waters and realized that neither of them if someone I wanted to have a relationship with, tell them that, and be happy being single while keeping an eye out for someone I was actually interested in dating or having a relationship with.

Yes, that why I call them ''quasi''GF. Their not bad people.it's
just upset me,when I get a girlfriend,they end becoming lousy.
They started out good but slowly they end up becoming friend
and ''quasi''GF level.

so,why should I waste my time on them,what's wrong
with me finding someone better.