Is this a good way to ask a girl out?

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Well Spiderpig, raising a teen is always like playing with fire - it is the most difficult phase.

I am aware that they may have sex since it's impossible to monitor them all the time; maybe through safe sex education and awareness you can limit that from happening, or at best, limiting unsafe sex from happening.

As for how early, I would say before 15 is too early.

That isn?t necessarily the case. You can simply not allow your children to go outside on their own, or not let them go anywhere but carefully monitored places. This will probably ruin their chances to develop a social life, especially if they don?t have much in the way of social skills to begin with?like aspies don?t?so, as time goes by, it won?t require any effort at all to prevent them from dating; rather, they?d need active help from you to climb out of the deeper and deeper well of isolation they?ll find themselves in. Just deny them such help, keep them busy with other things so they can?t seriously pursue the goal of breaking their isolation, and let them face any unresolved teenage issues later, on their own, as adult social outcasts with no experience, while your hands are clean.



Why not 16? Why not 20? Why not, ?Only when you no longer have to ask me?, or ?Only when I no longer can possibly stop you??

Hey everyone, sorry to update this after so long. But three weeks ago she wasn't at church, two weeks ago I wasn't, and last week neither of us were. So now that today I finally had a chance to do it, I did, and I can't just go without reporting now can I? So here is how it went.

I didn't follow my original plan too well because I was scared to try it in person. So the first thing I did was give her my number so she could talk to me. Later on we texted for a while, and eventually she said I sounded like I wanted to date her. Which since I do, I told her I did and explained how it would work. We could kiss, give each other occasional gifts, talk about anything, and rarely eat lunch after church. I asked if she wanted to try it, and she agreed. She was also really excited to kiss me for the first time next week. And as for now, even though I only get to see my girlfriend once a week, I am proud to say I have a steady relationship.

Thanks to all of you for your support. Huge special thanks goes out to Spiderpig. I can't tell you how much your advice and encouragement totally helped me out. Thank you so much. *End happy story*.

Aaaaaaw..

What's wrong with dating people at 15? I wish I had. Too late now. Well done! Hope you're happy together.

Congrats, modernmax!

I?m afraid I can?t tell if you?re being ironic, as I have plenty of doubts about this topic and was mostly talking about them, but you?re welcome.

I too wish I had dated at 15, but I was way too isolated, too clueless and with too few means to make any realistic attempt to improve the situation. Well, I also had the vague impression that, since dating is something you clearly don?t do as a child, at some point in your life something should happen to make it clear the time has come to start, and at least your parents should tell you. Of course, this never happened to me.