What?s the best way to attract a girl.

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Tears just sprang to my eyes as I couldn't stop laughing. Spot on! On a related note, (for the OP), I can say that as a girl, I would recommend trying to find someone with whom you share similar interests and striking up a conversation about that interest. (Ex, I like books, so meeting a guy at a bookshop and talking to him about what he likes to read would be great).

Sedentarian you raise an interesting point. That being the case perhaps I should disregard Aristophanes' advice on getting a degree for the soul purpose of impressing girls since that probably wouldn't work anyway.

RetroGamer87: Getting a degree would probably impress some types of girls. It depends what type of degree it is and what the degree is in. Also it would be helpful if the girl was sapiosexual.

The funny thing is, sometimes I want one to impress myself. Even though I don't really need one. Sort of like I just want it for an ego boost.

I'm sure a degree would impress some girls but even if I had a degree and a job in the same field, I'd still be shy around girls.

Meep! I have no advice about your shyness around girls. I can talk to guys but I'm never thought of as "datable"

Well, at least I'm not like Raj from Big Bang Theory. I can talk to girls but I have trouble moving beyond the realm of the platonic, even when I'm on a date.

The frustrating thing is, I don't have much social anxiety in non romantic scenarios.

Does it feel like you have the barrier? The even when you think you are connecting with the person, they don't reciprocate? That's how I am.... http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt262845.html ..... Shoot, the main things that I share with my boyfriend are our social awkwardness and nerdiness. Without that, there's not much.

A barrier? Sort of. But it's more like I'm the one who doesn't reciprocate. I don't mean I'm selfish or that I'm closed off with my friends. It's more like I'm the one who puts up a barrier whether I want to or not. They don't reciprocate? No, I don't reciprocate very well on the rare occasions when I manage to convince a girl to go on a date. It's like I can't get past the touch barrier.

It's a matter of what I should I should do and when I should do it. Like many on WP I can't read body language very well and even if I pick up on something I want to be absolutely certain so I'm way to cautious. The date ends with the girl implying that I'm a cold fish and then I go home and spend the rest of the night kicking myself as I go over it in my memory and analyzing all the signs I didn't react to.

My few dates have all been with NT women. In my interactions with aspie girls, it seems like some of them (not all) are even more shy than I am, leaving me unsure how to interact with them without overwhelming them. Sure I don't have to worry about reading body language but being in a "blind leading the blind" scenario could be almost as bad.

You could always try sticking large denomination bills in all your pockets.
The ladies fancy gents with a lot of money.

Ummmm...shouldn't this be in the Love and Dating forum?

Ask her what hairdo she likes on a man and wear your hair for her. Wear a T-shirt of her favourite band or performer. Give her secret notes on little pieces of paper that's her favourite colour.

Yes, it should really. Moving it now...