Any exp. with foreign wife from poor country?

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If you go to dark places to make your dreams come true, you'll wake up in the middle of a nightmare.


Hey...that actually sounds kind of poetic

I will first try find her myself in the other country. I speak some Spanish and would combine a search with taking further Spanish tutoring there.

"an arranged marriage of convenience" would be a fitting description, and of course I am not looking for someone to beat! But to some extent I will have to control her but not by force, she being without a language most can speak could help in the beginning. But it could be that finding one that speak English would be better in all other ways, but in most countries the real poor girls speak none anyway.

-She eventually get full citizenship. And slowly learning my own language so that she in the future can get a job and life on her own or find some new man (but not right away I hope).
-I get sex and maid.

I am European and it would be possible for me to bring her home as a tourist for 3 months without any visa for a test period if she is from some of my candidate countries in Latin America.

Where I live it`s easy to avoid the possibilities of me getting f****d over economical when (not if hehe) divorcing each other. Especially when no common children are involved that is easy if some preparations have been done before signing marriage.

I have traveled in Latin America before, in some countries it was much easier to find really poor but pretty girls than others. I got the impression that the more desperate young girls were most often single mothers, I got to taste some breast milk.

I visited Ukraine just before the revolts at Maidan, as s**t progressed there I started getting replies on some dating site again hehe.

Other men have asked the same question.

http://www.datalounge.com/cgi-bin/iowa/ ... d,10627890

For the ladies, enjoy:

http://mailorderhusbands.net/love/order/

There's a 25% big sale! Get in line!

Same here. I know several Dutch men. Especially the Eastern European and Latin females ditch the men as fast as f**k.

Hmm...

Given that the OP also authored this thread:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt251137.html

... I now find myself guessing if he is (1) trolling or (2) empathy-impaired above and beyond what one would expect from someone on the autistic spectrum...

Ooooooooooh! Bargains! ? Hmmmm ? maybe not!

Do you think the 25% offer applies to the guy who's already half price?

Does the OP realize that a marriage of convenience for him is also a marriage of convenience for her? She will have her own agenda which may (probably will be) in conflict with the OP's agenda.

I am not looking for someone to stay married with, marriage is just a necessity for her to get to live her, and it makes it possible for her to get full citizenship after some years what she gets back.

The success\failure experience I am asking about is not measured by marriage lasting longterm. Rather about risk of her becoming a nuisance who will not bother to cook, get fat, steal and run, ID theft etc.

And again in my country if one take preparations before signing marriage, divorce is not going to be costly.

You are guessing that her agenda is likely to be to play wife for a while (cook etc.) and then get a civilized divorce once she gets familiar with the area, learns the language and acquires citizenship. But that's just your guess at her agenda. As you realize, it could just as easily be to steal money, belongings or identity from you or simply to decline the "play wife" part. That's the gamble. You have stated your agenda here. But don't expect her (whoever she may be) to be so forthcoming about what her true agenda is.

OK, I had to look.

Not incredibly different than the selection on free dating sites, except maybe these guys are a bit more up front about what they have to offer!

She'll convince you to open a joint account while she's giving you a phenomenal blowjob then she distributes your money to her family abroad.

I just don't like the idea of "mail order brides." At all.

You girls are such drama queens. First, it was obvious flame-bait. Second, even the extreme example that he's suggesting is no worse than the foreign coerced labor that your entire lives are built on. So spare us the moral self-righteousness that you obviously don't really believe in.

As for the OP's question, I can't answer directly. I have one relative who married a Thai exchange-student who he met in college, and she's been fantastic. She's raised three healthy, happy, smart kids despite one being pretty oppositional. By contrast, about half of the American women in the family have used the "My kid is defective!" excuse without doing anything to adjust their own attitudes to match their kids' needs. They all have attentive, accommodating husbands and plenty of other support, so that's not the problem.

In Costa Rica it's almost hard to avoid meeting women. They're surprisingly educated - many are bilingual and most have real jobs - and also very fit from walking everywhere. I've only been down there for a quick vacation, so I certainly haven't explored the dating scene, but I was told that many of them dislike the groveling insecurity of most American men. I also talked with a Tica (Costa Rican woman) on the flight there, and a Panamanian woman on the way home, both of whom had very favorable views of American men (we didn't talk about insecurity), and of their husbands in particular. One of them was already living and working in the US when they met, so she didn't have to marry. Both of them had been married for a long time and were conspicuously happy. The Panamanian lady told me stories about living in Alaska, traveling all over, and how pleased she was with her kids. (Her biggest complaint was that they lived too far away.)

It's a night-and-day difference: good attitudes, healthy expectations, strong parenting skills, physical fitness, warmth... Why buy American? That would be like passing over a clockwork-smooth Toyota or Datsun from the '70s for an overpriced gas-hog Caddy that always breaks down.

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Not going to lie, I've decided that if I'm really unhappy with my social/love life when I'm 35, I've decided I'd rather end it all or do this mail order thing - I'll have company and her family will have sustenance, so it's a win-win. I definitely wouldn't treat her like a sex slave and I'd be super careful with my finances as well. The "advantage" of her family living in a poorer country is that the living costs are much lower. There are so many factors I would need to be careful about and there's no guarantee she wouldn't divorce me ASAP but by that point I'll be desperate enough to take the risk using all kinds of precautions.

I've still got 8 years until those kinds of extreme measures though.