Chloe, don't stay there ... RUN ... FAST ... and don't look back. You are in denial and you're trying to understand him in order to avoid your own pain. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask "Am I happy with this situation?". If you cry, that's a pretty clear answer.
This man is abusive, whether he is a NT or an AS.
Why do you stay with him if you hurt and he doesn't care?
It took me a whole year to get over the trauma resulting from going out with a narcissist, and another year to decide if I would go out with any man again. I've been single since (2,5 years). And I stayed only 8 months with him!! ! Don't stay because you think the situation will improve. it won't.
I never thought I would have ended up crying because a man saw me as an extension of himself, like his thing. In my case, I was vulnerable when I met him because I was grieving many losses in my life. My empathic side attracted him too. Please take care of yourself, talk to your friends and familiy and stop all contact with him. You deserve better than being bruised. This is not love.
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This deeper form of empathy requires patience and emotional awareness, but it also requires a basic trust in people?s ability to deal with conflict and to listen closely to their own emotions. And this deep form of empathy doesn?t look like niceness, K. M
03 Aug 2014, 9:54 pm
