26 Aug 2014, 6:50 am
Outrider wrote:
It's even worse when you're someone who is grateful and happy with whatever life gives them and would prefer to take advantage of that then to have to change or aim higher to suit someone else's ideals.
I'm a skinny and weak guy but I don't care about muscles or being tough, I think it's a waste of my time and I just don't want muscles or a muscular body. I'm proud for what I have.
With a job I'd prefer something part-time and casual, obviously this won't work and I need to get some laborous 9-5 business related work.
I'm a skinny and weak guy but I don't care about muscles or being tough, I think it's a waste of my time and I just don't want muscles or a muscular body. I'm proud for what I have.
With a job I'd prefer something part-time and casual, obviously this won't work and I need to get some laborous 9-5 business related work.
Those are dangerous thoughts. I once shared most of them, oblivious to the fact that human civilization was built according to the law of the jungle, and we never left it behind, no matter how much it might seem so at times. We can?t leave it behind, insofar as we?re living beings?life means fight for survival and survival of the fittest. Stay weak and you?ll be abused. Fail to defend yourself and you?ll be abused more and more, and it?ll make you weaker and weaker, closing the feedback loop. Even those who aren?t interested in abusing someone will be less motivated to associate with you than with someone stronger: a chain is as strong as its weakest link. Noöne wants weak links, and especially not as a partner. If you don?t play to win, you?re guaranteed to lose.
Cafeaulait wrote:
If a guy is interested in you, will he pursue you?
If a guy doesn't pursue you, does that mean he's not interested in you?
Assuming he knows you don't have a boyfriend.
If a guy doesn't pursue you, does that mean he's not interested in you?
Assuming he knows you don't have a boyfriend.
You can?t be seriously asking those questions. There are lots of reasons why a guy who is interested in you might not actively make it known. Of course, I?d understand it if you decided a guy who behaves that way is not worth your time.
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26 Aug 2014, 12:18 pm
Spiderpig wrote:
Outrider wrote:
It's even worse when you're someone who is grateful and happy with whatever life gives them and would prefer to take advantage of that then to have to change or aim higher to suit someone else's ideals.
I'm a skinny and weak guy but I don't care about muscles or being tough, I think it's a waste of my time and I just don't want muscles or a muscular body. I'm proud for what I have.
With a job I'd prefer something part-time and casual, obviously this won't work and I need to get some laborous 9-5 business related work.
I'm a skinny and weak guy but I don't care about muscles or being tough, I think it's a waste of my time and I just don't want muscles or a muscular body. I'm proud for what I have.
With a job I'd prefer something part-time and casual, obviously this won't work and I need to get some laborous 9-5 business related work.
Those are dangerous thoughts. I once shared most of them, oblivious to the fact that human civilization was built according to the law of the jungle, and we never left it behind, no matter how much it might seem so at times. We can?t leave it behind, insofar as we?re living beings?life means fight for survival and survival of the fittest. Stay weak and you?ll be abused. Fail to defend yourself and you?ll be abused more and more, and it?ll make you weaker and weaker, closing the feedback loop. Even those who aren?t interested in abusing someone will be less motivated to associate with you than with someone stronger: a chain is as strong as its weakest link. Noöne wants weak links, and especially not as a partner. If you don?t play to win, you?re guaranteed to lose.
I dunno. Most mature relationship models emphasize human interdependence, at the very least a "pack" mentality rather than dog-eat-dog. Everyone has individual strengths they bring to the table. As long as people do everything they can to support each other, people tend to thrive in relationships.
I'm not a muscular or physically attractive guy, and I once stared down a black-belt karate guy over his girlfriend. He flinched. I won. Not a single punch thrown. And this was a short-statured guy who could take down guys 3 times my size--I'd seen him do it, too. There's just a lot more to the game than sheer size and strength.
Not long after we moved where we are, I had an, um, altercation with a neighborhood kid. I didn't think it was a big deal. Apparently his mom's boyfriend did. He came over ready to knock my head off my shoulders. I talked to him for 5 minutes and invited him over for hot dogs and beer sometime. I'll take trailer-park diplomacy over law-of-the-jungle any day.
BTW, trailer-park "jungle" existence boils down really to two unspoken rules: Help your neighbors, mind your own business. Handgun ownership doesn't hurt, either.
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