Im not sure I can trust anyone in a relatioship!

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Including yourself. A life of distrust is a crappy one. On a healthier note, you should know that you can trust certain people with certain things. Implicitly trusting someone, or anyone can be dangerous. You cannot even implicitly trust yourself. You are human. You make alot of wrong decisions.

I'm going with em-tsu with this one.

Health professionals are doing WONDERS these days!

Did you know that if you stutter, and are caught before the age of six,
you will not only be taught how not to stutter
but you not be able to remember having EVER stuttered!

WOW!



Some of the posts here smell!

only doctors take the hippocratic oath

Did I make a stinky mr. Syzygyish ?

Some are more fake than others, and personally, I've never been "fake" since I was a child.

I have been indeed stubborn and keep thinking I can do this all on my own and even getting to the point to shutting my friends out to try to solve this but I need to admit i do need help and will consider for sure to get therapy. This may take many many years though I hate it I hate myself for getting this although I shouldn't because I had no choice and want to forgive myself for getting this way and want to learn to trust people again! I want this curse to end, I want my heart to heal and not be lost forever and I want to be willing to trust again.

AspieOtaku, I?m really glad you?re considering therapy! If (or hopefully when) you start seeing a therapist remember not to get frustrated with it if you feel like the therapy isn?t going anywhere or that it?s not giving you results immediately. It?s not a quick fix so it will take time like you said (I hope you were referring to the therapy itself not to the finding a therapist part), but it will be worth it if it can help reduce the anxiety and problems the PTSD is causing you now and help you work on your relationships. The good thing about seeing a therapist and/or psychiatrist is that they?ll also be able to get a perspective on your situation as a whole, so if you have other problems that might be contributing to this that you?re not aware of then he/she can take those into account and address them as well so you can get all the possible help you need to deal with this as effectively as possible.

It?s also really good that you?re realizing that there is no reason for you to hate yourself. Even if the feeling doesn?t go away yet, it?s a good start that you?re recognizing exactly how you feel and on an intellectual level acknowledging that that?s not how it should be and that you want to change the negative views you have of yourself and others. And especially, that despite your bad experiences you still want to trust people again and have a relationship.

I really hope you get all the help you need. Ganbatte ne!

Last edited by Riikka on 03 Sep 2014, 10:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I have one more piece of advice about therapy: Get someone who is qualified! Not every mental health professional who provides therapy knows enough about PTSD or the effects of trauma to be effective. A person who is unqualified can really mess you up (triggering the hell out of you for no good reason and not bringing about any resolution to the problem). During your first meeting with a potential therapist, ask the person if they have experience treating people with PTSD. Ask them if they have been trained to treat people who have a history of trauma. Also, trust your gut feeling about the person. If you get a bad vibe from the therapist, find another therapist.

I'm speaking both as a long-time therapy client and mental healthcare professional. Some therapists are better than others. Therapy can fundamentally change your life in a positive way or it can be a huge disappointment depending on the quality of the therapist.

You not alone Mr. You have got to know your limitations. That girl was too much for you. Not your type. Keep an eye out for something you can handle. Forgive yourself. I have a girl that is 22 years younger than me right now who wants to do me. She says I can do anything I want, and she wants me to be mean to her. I'm not kidding. I don't know what to do about, or with it. I get that frequently. Not to that extreme, but I'm no stranger to it. It seems like the ones who go after me, that is all they want really. Doesn't matter. I know my limitations. Unless I'm really drunk. I made that mistake about a month ago with someone else. At least I am out of my shell. kind of. I have been turning fluzzies down for 13 years, up until a month ago. All kinds. Don't let any of these girls fool you. Most of them are nutz! It's probably really stupid, but I'm actually thinking about this girl. Her name is trouble. Fun trouble. All kinds. She could really screw my head up. A man has got to know his limitations. Hopefully you can find someone who you can find somekind of mutual enjoyment with. You have to meet someone in the middle. They will always do something you are not going to like. Sounds like the girl that screwed your head up had a personality disorder. Don't waste your time loving a girl like that. It is an abusive waste of time. Move on.

She was a walking path of destruction with more issues than myself and manipulative in ways in whatever it takes to get her way very controlling and violent has no sympathy only who takes pleasure in hurting others! I truly truly hope I come across someone who isn't that way but its hard really it is because so many come with that facade of wanting to be loving and caring only to reveal their inner monster in them and torture your soul for their enjoyment!

You chose the wrong mental case on that deal. Live and learn friend.

TRUST!


That's a Massive realisation!
it's the basis of love, currency,the stock market, politics,
human interactions, generally

and betraying trust
is usually seen as the ultimate crime...

trust is like saying, ill give you a chance, if you blow it, you failed.

Trust involves taking risks, and sometimes consequences for certain actions sometimes. It only works perfectly in a perfect world. One that we do not live in. Too many weasels. Funny you would use the word trust as a defining factor of the New York stock exchange. That is the thing that pritty much caused the great depression.

I hope to trust once again and I may as well be willing to make sacrifices to trust again but I will remain cautious and vigilant! I just want to be able to fall in love again and allow a woman into my heart again regardless of the difficulty!