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05 Mar 2007, 6:19 pm

Xuincherguixe wrote:
I say don't limit yourself to aspie women.

'Smart' is generally enough. :P


Very practical advice. Also, bear in mind that there are some potential negatives to two aspies being together. In a relationship where both people have difficulty reading and reacting to each other's emotions, there will be problems. I've tried this once.

As Xuincherguixe said, if I could find someone who was smart, and perhaps just a bit odd in some respect, I'd have someone I could relate to.



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05 Mar 2007, 6:22 pm

jfberge wrote:
Xuincherguixe wrote:
I say don't limit yourself to aspie women.

'Smart' is generally enough. :P


Very practical advice. Also, bear in mind that there are some potential negatives to two aspies being together. In a relationship where both people have difficulty reading and reacting to each other's emotions, there will be problems. I've tried this once.

As Xuincherguixe said, if I could find someone who was smart, and perhaps just a bit odd in some respect, I'd have someone I could relate to.


Keep in mind that not everyone has AS to the same extent. I have an official diagnosis, but I am borderline AS/NT. In fact, the RDOS Aspie quiz keeps saying that I am "very likely neurotypical".

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06 Mar 2007, 8:08 pm

Corvus wrote:
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Alaric wrote:
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Love is a joke,give up before you get a broken heart and kill yourself...

If love is a joke, what's the punchline?

The punch line is "ha ha, you made a fool of yourself"


Hand out points for someone who tries versus someone who just complains about how much 'love sucks.' I dont know whats worse, the misery of not obtaining someone or just having a bad attitude about it that just reinforces the fact you probably wont find anyone. Attitudes say a lot, on this subject, and if you go in thinking you "suck" then chances are, everyone will think you suck.

You're 15, you've many years ahead and there is no time line on finding someone. Society may suggest that you should start, now, but if you don't find anyone now, don't beat yourself up. Trust me when I say that those who run around banging everything they see really don't have a lot going for them outside of a 'sex addiction' that society thinks is "awesome" while it tries to curb 'drug' and 'gambling' addictions.

I've a friend who was upset all her friends were marrying. She was going to be the last one. She is 21 damn years old. I told her to 'stop whining' and that all her friends will be divorced by the time she finds someone.


Whenever I say love sucks I mean it more tongue in cheek. I don't believe it. It certainly CAN, and often does suck, and the punchline CAN be ha ha you made a fool of yourself. but it is DEFINITELY worth the risk that this will happen. I absolutely expect it to happen eventually. I'm pretty picky but I consider that a good thing, because I'm not going to settle with a girl just because she is there and will satisfy my loneliness. I did that once. It went on maybe 3 or 4 weeks. It was definitely worth it because I learned so much from it. She even told me she didn't think she was good enough for me. Well, I pretty soon realized that this was the case and the relationship was going nowhere. But I realized from it that I can be very romantic, smooth at talking to girls, and am actually capable at a relationship, things I never would have known. It gave me a lot of confidence, so while on one hand it was a "mistake" since it was doomed from the start, it was a worthwhile mistake. Of course that was almost a year ago, so it has been a while and I am ready to find someone, but I have to wait for the right one.

So while I am an advocate of finding one girl and marrying her, I have to say from a pragmatic standpoint you will have more success if you have had some experience. Nlove is not a game, but as long as you are not using her, but it is a mutual relationship, its good to learn how to deal with women. If you try this on a girl you love for the first time, it is possible you will lose her because you just don't understand the relationship yet. and it will hurt more.



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06 Mar 2007, 9:17 pm

Sairbie wrote:
Well, hell kid, I'm an Aspie woman... I dunno why you guys find us so difficult to find, where I live it's easy enough to find whole groups of Aspie women. granted, it is easier to find guys with AS, but girls don't seem to be that rare on the whole, just in certain areas. Maybe it's just the fact that out where I live there are just more girls than guys to begin with? Hah, now I'm just not quite sure, but if you just wanna talk to see what it's like talking to someone of the opposite sex with AS I'll chat with ya. I don't see how it's such a big deal though, but maybe that's me, there's not much I tend to see as a big deal. It's all survivable. My MSN addy is sairbie at hotmail dot com. Don't mind my spammer-guarding habits. I'm of the opinion that they're necessary. :P


Erm... where do you live? I live in Bristol, England.


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