Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?

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It does not matter if the female has issues like autism, they by nature seek to be with someone whom will give them healthy children, even if they can not have any them selves, its in their nature. If you just want to get screwed thats one thing (even though they want romanced otherwise anyways), but a relationship no, you can not tell them such things like that of you being autistic until they are so far into you they may over look it (which is unlikely). they may say otherwise, but I have always found that to be a lie. I have purposely gotten with other Aspie females, hoping to be accepted, and they rejected me just because of those reasons, regardless that they had the same issues them selves., and THATs one of the biggest reasons I gave up on having relationships with women. they are not all that way, but the majority of them are. and they will be happy for you not to hit on them because it thins out the prospect till its what they are looking for. so i see no benefit for me to polish their egoe's when it benefits us not. even though they reject you, it makes their own ego's feel good to be hit on when they can give a crap less about ours. don't give it to them. let them rot.

if we can not have them then there is no point in giving into their ego, it only spoils them even more.,

The vast majority of all aspies fall in the "mild" range, and won't die virgins. With that being said, most aspie men never get married and never have a long-term relationship.

Losing my virginity is not something that I worry about. I don't care if I ever have sex, because I am not interested in women and I do not want to risk having kids. I was just asking because I am curious if it is typical for aspies to never lose their virginity.

I didn't lose my virginity till I was about 29(I have vague memories of being rapped when I was really little but not even sure it happened so I don't count that) & it was with my current girlfriend who I met here on WP & have been living with about two years now. The girlfriend I had shortly before that I had also met here on WP by posting about wanting a relationship aLOT & I also posted about the type of relationship I wanted & how I was within a relationship & what I had to offer a lot. I met my 1st girlfriend on an online forum when I was 20 & we were online friends before she said she liked me; she wasn't a typical NT thou, she had dyslexia, ADHD & some OCD. I have things besides Aspergers that limit me with life & relationships so your not doomed or anything.

funny, I started a thread pretty much exactly like this one except with a different title

I'm 20 soon to be 21 and I've never 'done it'. Would I like to know what it is like? Yes. Am I going to just do it with anyone? No. As others have said, we tend to be late bloomers with all sorts of things. If society has a problem with me being a virgin, then that is their problem not mine. I've set standards for myself and for any women I meet that I believe are just and I plan on sticking with them. Don't rush into anything just for the sake of loosing your virginity and if you are in school, that should be your priority in life because you will be much more desirable in the long run and more likely to find a lasting relationship.

My first and only relationship with someone ended partially because I was starting college and she was starting senior year of high school, and I haven't had a girlfriend since then, so don't feel bad if you aren't in a relationship right away. Good things come to those who are patient.

oh don't worry high school doesn't stop your fantasies, there is always the other side of meeting at the three ring circus.

Its a tough one. Its highly improbable that this will happen because of the fact that many people are promiscuous and the numbers generally balance out. However poor social skills social anxiety and the like can make it pretty difficult. For the most part however its somewhat unlikely unless you have a very small social circle really. Being at a university for instance lifts your chances significantly

I'm starting to fear that this will happen to me.

No.

You just need to put in the right effort to make a relationship work. Some Aspies are even married and have children.