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08 Mar 2007, 2:40 am
Inventor wrote:
When in doubt, say thank you. What do you expect from reruns. Deny everything. Nothing happened. Talk about Dr. Who. Nothing changes when nothing changes, got that? You are being tested.
When the answer to, what have I done? What will happen now? Turns out to be nothing has changed, then it is a safe game to play. Forget about it. Blank it out. Never go any farther than speaking to her in private and saying Dr. Who reruns can be boring.
The Ladies Honor is now in your hands, as were some other things. Be a decent chap about it. Shut up!
Sixteen is rather young, just how often do you think she has done such things, do you think she watches Dr. Who with every guy in school? I think not.
I would think it was farther than ever before, she is shocked with herself, she did not get up and walk out, she stayed and played. She would not have done it, if she did not want to. She liked it, wants more, and is scaring herself. Third base is very close to a home run. Well yes, some day, but not yet, but I do like more than just watching others play the game.
What you have is a minor league player on a learners permit. They have dreams of rounding third and sliding into home plate, it is all very complex, and a safe place to practice, a good coach, is a make or break issue. They may still have doubts about signing with your club, but the tryout went well.
Prospects all have the same questions, will this ruin my other chances? This is someone's little girl, she was just ten. She has a varsity future. several more years in school, and a few kisses can turn into a reputation. Other girls that age are observant and cruel. None of this has anything to do with you.
What does have to do with you is being asked. Are you a friend that understands and can be trusted, or just another boy that wants to get in her pants? Any girl of sixteen has been hit on a million or two times. You played slow and safe, no pressure, and you are doing well. Your contract terms are being tested.
Welcome to social testing. Falling in love is great. But you have to manage the business part well. You seem to know well the loveless dork role, keep it up, no one must ever suspect.
Just look at her wierd now and you are toast. Rerun who you were a month ago.
Welcome to the game everyone plays. Be cool about it, it just went a little too far, you were safe on second, and pushed your luck. She is saying I am not that kind of girl. You owe her an apology. Take the rap and free her, it does take two to play, but if you say, sorry, teen you know, we can be friends within limits, all is better. Then go off and be your dorkey self, she will know where to find you.
If you have been used and dumped, how graceful can you be. Other clubs are looking for some short term action, without long term contracts. Parting is an art, be good at it. Girls do have to think in terms of damage control. No matter what, I would still like you if you were my sister.
Understand this, she is living in a waist up world, a new playground. sixteen is not ready for below the belt. That is a Major Major thing. Now if you can come up with a health certificate, pure as driven snow, and carry a pocket full of protection, and keep your mouth shut, and treat her like your sister, and live the rest of your life well and look like you might have a future, you might.
Do not take it personally, look at her point of view, which I am spelling out because you are on WP.
I understand these things because that is my little girl, and I do not mind going back to jail, do you understand me young man. Meditating on things below your navel gives a narrow view of life. Lift your eyes, see the world around her, protect her, apoligise and dump yourself, go away, she is worried, calm her fears. She will get over it, what happend, not being a girl.
If she did it, she cannot help but think about it, and if nothing bad happened, and limits were self imposed, a show of respect, and you would rather never speak to her again to maintain your friendship, well it was not that bad, and she might show up with a DVD.
She gave you something really nice to see if you would take good care of it. I think that is what this is all about. You did push your luck on a first contact situation. Never take everything you can get, save some for later, when you know you have a long standing invitation.
You are not out of the game.
When the answer to, what have I done? What will happen now? Turns out to be nothing has changed, then it is a safe game to play. Forget about it. Blank it out. Never go any farther than speaking to her in private and saying Dr. Who reruns can be boring.
The Ladies Honor is now in your hands, as were some other things. Be a decent chap about it. Shut up!
Sixteen is rather young, just how often do you think she has done such things, do you think she watches Dr. Who with every guy in school? I think not.
I would think it was farther than ever before, she is shocked with herself, she did not get up and walk out, she stayed and played. She would not have done it, if she did not want to. She liked it, wants more, and is scaring herself. Third base is very close to a home run. Well yes, some day, but not yet, but I do like more than just watching others play the game.
What you have is a minor league player on a learners permit. They have dreams of rounding third and sliding into home plate, it is all very complex, and a safe place to practice, a good coach, is a make or break issue. They may still have doubts about signing with your club, but the tryout went well.
Prospects all have the same questions, will this ruin my other chances? This is someone's little girl, she was just ten. She has a varsity future. several more years in school, and a few kisses can turn into a reputation. Other girls that age are observant and cruel. None of this has anything to do with you.
What does have to do with you is being asked. Are you a friend that understands and can be trusted, or just another boy that wants to get in her pants? Any girl of sixteen has been hit on a million or two times. You played slow and safe, no pressure, and you are doing well. Your contract terms are being tested.
Welcome to social testing. Falling in love is great. But you have to manage the business part well. You seem to know well the loveless dork role, keep it up, no one must ever suspect.
Just look at her wierd now and you are toast. Rerun who you were a month ago.
Welcome to the game everyone plays. Be cool about it, it just went a little too far, you were safe on second, and pushed your luck. She is saying I am not that kind of girl. You owe her an apology. Take the rap and free her, it does take two to play, but if you say, sorry, teen you know, we can be friends within limits, all is better. Then go off and be your dorkey self, she will know where to find you.
If you have been used and dumped, how graceful can you be. Other clubs are looking for some short term action, without long term contracts. Parting is an art, be good at it. Girls do have to think in terms of damage control. No matter what, I would still like you if you were my sister.
Understand this, she is living in a waist up world, a new playground. sixteen is not ready for below the belt. That is a Major Major thing. Now if you can come up with a health certificate, pure as driven snow, and carry a pocket full of protection, and keep your mouth shut, and treat her like your sister, and live the rest of your life well and look like you might have a future, you might.
Do not take it personally, look at her point of view, which I am spelling out because you are on WP.
I understand these things because that is my little girl, and I do not mind going back to jail, do you understand me young man. Meditating on things below your navel gives a narrow view of life. Lift your eyes, see the world around her, protect her, apoligise and dump yourself, go away, she is worried, calm her fears. She will get over it, what happend, not being a girl.
If she did it, she cannot help but think about it, and if nothing bad happened, and limits were self imposed, a show of respect, and you would rather never speak to her again to maintain your friendship, well it was not that bad, and she might show up with a DVD.
She gave you something really nice to see if you would take good care of it. I think that is what this is all about. You did push your luck on a first contact situation. Never take everything you can get, save some for later, when you know you have a long standing invitation.
You are not out of the game.
Your advice sound much more sensible than lowfreq50's
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08 Mar 2007, 2:42 am
Topher wrote:
Thanks for all the advice, it was worth it. I have spoken to her today, and we have put the incident in question behind us. We seem content to be friends and we still want to spend time together, i don't know if she was testing me, but my guess was she let her hormones rule her for a few brief moments, and i followed on in good faith. Shes still only 16 so shes still growing up and learning, so im trying not to let it get me down, she is a lovely person and i would not want to lose a good friend. I hope things can get better.
This sounds promising.
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08 Mar 2007, 2:48 am
Unknown wrote:
Topher,you shouldn't bother with love for love is just a joke because humanity is so selfish,so that girl is just using you to get what she wants,just like lowfrq50 said.
Neither you nor lowfreq50 knows this with regard to the specific girl Topher is talking about, though I realise that you may both have suffered. I have known both a manipulative Machiavelian enchantresses of a woman and honest, thoughtful mature types (I have also been in love with both). To generalise without regard to the specifics of this situation as revealed by the original post does not appear to me to be wise.
And he wants to continue friends with her. Having had that one experience made things awkward for a time.
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09 Mar 2007, 3:52 am
Topher.
This is Doc Gamester.
I'd say that whatever happened is water under the bridge.
To all you others out there. thank you for the advice.
But Topher.
I agree, you're 16. you shouldn't be worryign about love and romance for a while now. trust me, I was 17 when I got my first girlfriend, and that was an exciting time for me, because I had a reason now to understand all about how to be a true friend. But you seem to be on that road my friend.
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10 Mar 2007, 7:36 am
AlexandertheSolitary wrote:
Inventor wrote:
When in doubt, say thank you. What do you expect from reruns. Deny everything. Nothing happened. Talk about Dr. Who. Nothing changes when nothing changes, got that? You are being tested.
When the answer to, what have I done? What will happen now? Turns out to be nothing has changed, then it is a safe game to play. Forget about it. Blank it out. Never go any farther than speaking to her in private and saying Dr. Who reruns can be boring.
The Ladies Honor is now in your hands, as were some other things. Be a decent chap about it. Shut up!
Sixteen is rather young, just how often do you think she has done such things, do you think she watches Dr. Who with every guy in school? I think not.
I would think it was farther than ever before, she is shocked with herself, she did not get up and walk out, she stayed and played. She would not have done it, if she did not want to. She liked it, wants more, and is scaring herself. Third base is very close to a home run. Well yes, some day, but not yet, but I do like more than just watching others play the game.
What you have is a minor league player on a learners permit. They have dreams of rounding third and sliding into home plate, it is all very complex, and a safe place to practice, a good coach, is a make or break issue. They may still have doubts about signing with your club, but the tryout went well.
Prospects all have the same questions, will this ruin my other chances? This is someone's little girl, she was just ten. She has a varsity future. several more years in school, and a few kisses can turn into a reputation. Other girls that age are observant and cruel. None of this has anything to do with you.
What does have to do with you is being asked. Are you a friend that understands and can be trusted, or just another boy that wants to get in her pants? Any girl of sixteen has been hit on a million or two times. You played slow and safe, no pressure, and you are doing well. Your contract terms are being tested.
Welcome to social testing. Falling in love is great. But you have to manage the business part well. You seem to know well the loveless dork role, keep it up, no one must ever suspect.
Just look at her wierd now and you are toast. Rerun who you were a month ago.
Welcome to the game everyone plays. Be cool about it, it just went a little too far, you were safe on second, and pushed your luck. She is saying I am not that kind of girl. You owe her an apology. Take the rap and free her, it does take two to play, but if you say, sorry, teen you know, we can be friends within limits, all is better. Then go off and be your dorkey self, she will know where to find you.
If you have been used and dumped, how graceful can you be. Other clubs are looking for some short term action, without long term contracts. Parting is an art, be good at it. Girls do have to think in terms of damage control. No matter what, I would still like you if you were my sister.
Understand this, she is living in a waist up world, a new playground. sixteen is not ready for below the belt. That is a Major Major thing. Now if you can come up with a health certificate, pure as driven snow, and carry a pocket full of protection, and keep your mouth shut, and treat her like your sister, and live the rest of your life well and look like you might have a future, you might.
Do not take it personally, look at her point of view, which I am spelling out because you are on WP.
I understand these things because that is my little girl, and I do not mind going back to jail, do you understand me young man. Meditating on things below your navel gives a narrow view of life. Lift your eyes, see the world around her, protect her, apoligise and dump yourself, go away, she is worried, calm her fears. She will get over it, what happend, not being a girl.
If she did it, she cannot help but think about it, and if nothing bad happened, and limits were self imposed, a show of respect, and you would rather never speak to her again to maintain your friendship, well it was not that bad, and she might show up with a DVD.
She gave you something really nice to see if you would take good care of it. I think that is what this is all about. You did push your luck on a first contact situation. Never take everything you can get, save some for later, when you know you have a long standing invitation.
You are not out of the game.
When the answer to, what have I done? What will happen now? Turns out to be nothing has changed, then it is a safe game to play. Forget about it. Blank it out. Never go any farther than speaking to her in private and saying Dr. Who reruns can be boring.
The Ladies Honor is now in your hands, as were some other things. Be a decent chap about it. Shut up!
Sixteen is rather young, just how often do you think she has done such things, do you think she watches Dr. Who with every guy in school? I think not.
I would think it was farther than ever before, she is shocked with herself, she did not get up and walk out, she stayed and played. She would not have done it, if she did not want to. She liked it, wants more, and is scaring herself. Third base is very close to a home run. Well yes, some day, but not yet, but I do like more than just watching others play the game.
What you have is a minor league player on a learners permit. They have dreams of rounding third and sliding into home plate, it is all very complex, and a safe place to practice, a good coach, is a make or break issue. They may still have doubts about signing with your club, but the tryout went well.
Prospects all have the same questions, will this ruin my other chances? This is someone's little girl, she was just ten. She has a varsity future. several more years in school, and a few kisses can turn into a reputation. Other girls that age are observant and cruel. None of this has anything to do with you.
What does have to do with you is being asked. Are you a friend that understands and can be trusted, or just another boy that wants to get in her pants? Any girl of sixteen has been hit on a million or two times. You played slow and safe, no pressure, and you are doing well. Your contract terms are being tested.
Welcome to social testing. Falling in love is great. But you have to manage the business part well. You seem to know well the loveless dork role, keep it up, no one must ever suspect.
Just look at her wierd now and you are toast. Rerun who you were a month ago.
Welcome to the game everyone plays. Be cool about it, it just went a little too far, you were safe on second, and pushed your luck. She is saying I am not that kind of girl. You owe her an apology. Take the rap and free her, it does take two to play, but if you say, sorry, teen you know, we can be friends within limits, all is better. Then go off and be your dorkey self, she will know where to find you.
If you have been used and dumped, how graceful can you be. Other clubs are looking for some short term action, without long term contracts. Parting is an art, be good at it. Girls do have to think in terms of damage control. No matter what, I would still like you if you were my sister.
Understand this, she is living in a waist up world, a new playground. sixteen is not ready for below the belt. That is a Major Major thing. Now if you can come up with a health certificate, pure as driven snow, and carry a pocket full of protection, and keep your mouth shut, and treat her like your sister, and live the rest of your life well and look like you might have a future, you might.
Do not take it personally, look at her point of view, which I am spelling out because you are on WP.
I understand these things because that is my little girl, and I do not mind going back to jail, do you understand me young man. Meditating on things below your navel gives a narrow view of life. Lift your eyes, see the world around her, protect her, apoligise and dump yourself, go away, she is worried, calm her fears. She will get over it, what happend, not being a girl.
If she did it, she cannot help but think about it, and if nothing bad happened, and limits were self imposed, a show of respect, and you would rather never speak to her again to maintain your friendship, well it was not that bad, and she might show up with a DVD.
She gave you something really nice to see if you would take good care of it. I think that is what this is all about. You did push your luck on a first contact situation. Never take everything you can get, save some for later, when you know you have a long standing invitation.
You are not out of the game.
Your advice sound much more sensible than lowfreq50's
And I like your talk about the Lady's Honour (and I must confess I found the "Do you think she watches Doctor Who with every guy in shool?" hilarious!)
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