Cafeaulait wrote:
em_tsuj wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I don't know what is up with me.
It's Asperger's. The body language has to be there, the non-verbal communication. I can never get that stuff down either--even if I know what I am supposed to do, getting my body to perform the actions is difficult. Interpreting other people's non-verbal communication in real time is damn near impossible for me. I miss 90% of the cues. Then, in hindsight, I realize what the other person was trying to say to me. Of course, by then it is too late.
You are probably right. There must be something off about my body language even when I am traying to stand as open and smiley as possible.
And people would unfairly get the wrong idea if you are inadequate in displaying friendliness/how-approachable, I've been guilty at doing that to others few times (being afraid to approach someone because she seemed to me not wanting to be approached or unfriendly), the story I've cited before here is a perfect example. And it's not just about the smile of course; there are many things at play, that girl for example was displaying signs of "I don't want to be bothered by anyone" all the time (we introverts do that all the time) ; she avoids eye contact, looking at the ground or phone most of the time, she puts earphones most of the time, she has no company at all, her mind seemed preoccupied..etc. All these seemed "I don't want to be bothered by anyone" signs to me and made me afraid to approach her in any way - I was like "better to leave her alone". Once broken the ice with her (an unintended talk with her), she was the one was starting topics with me ever since, so go figure lol.
Your problem might be something similar, not necessarily the same.