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11 Nov 2014, 7:17 am

I don't see anything wrong with it. In a way it is one of the most useful motivations to achieving things that need to be done anyway. It has always been probably the prime mover for me - not everything or all details - but in keeping the ball rolling with an eye towards how it looks from the outside.

Maybe certain people feel (impressing and gaining a partner) is the most important motivator while others are motivated by other things. I suspect that's the case. I am not sure that matters so much as you just have motivation and reasons to keep going. The things you are shooting for like being financially independent, good physical appearence, etc, are definitely on target for your goals. Where you live and how you keep it is also important.

But these things alone are like the window dressing, that brings someone in to see what you are like inside. For them, the most important aspect may be how you view and value them, and not just in the opening stage but in the long run. Its a lot easier to lose a love then gain one.



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11 Nov 2014, 7:37 am

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Is it wrong to try and impress girls?


well all i can say is that it is right to be all that you can be, and even if not a soul ever witnesses it, it is still as good.
if someone else witnesses you from afar and is attracted to you, then just allow it to happen, but continue on your own way with them or without them.
the girls i have met in my life have remained my friends throughout many years and still are, and i never tried to impress anyone.
i just stayed true to who i am and if anyone says "yeah, i'm outta here", then i bid them farewell and continue on my way.
some of the girls that like me like that aspect of me.



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11 Nov 2014, 8:28 am

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But am I selling my health and my life of leisure just for a chance to impress girls that may not work anyway? (ironic that I may have harmed my health in an attempt to look healthier). What if my girl problems weren't even caused by my appearance or my occupation in the first place? What if was more social problems?


From ideally ethhical view it is wrong, but it's what most people do anyway: Women go on harsh diets, do plastic surgeries, put make up, buy expensive clothes and apparels...all so they can be more impressive in the eyes of others (whether men or other women) - now sometimes you hear a woman saying "I do this because it makes me more conformtable, not to impress others" - ha! but that's a fat lie because if she was living in an island alone she certainly wouldn't do it.

Men do it too, they go to gyms, drink stupid loads of proteins and take harmful enhancements, buy expensive clothes and cars ...all for the same reason.



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11 Nov 2014, 8:42 am

Retro I would say just be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not or try show off all the time (I hope that didn't sound rude, I literally did not mean it to sound that way).



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11 Nov 2014, 9:00 am

Yes, it is wrong.



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11 Nov 2014, 5:48 pm

For the sole reason of getting in their pants?

Depends on how attractive you are to them.

In general I'd say prepare to get backfired.



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12 Nov 2014, 12:52 am

No, but there is such a thing as trying too hard, but showing quickly you're good at 'insert skill here' is good enough. Making whole conversations about 'look at all the awesome stuff I've ever done' is taking it way to far.



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12 Nov 2014, 2:50 am

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My view is that impressing people only ever works if you do it with things you're actually good at.


This.

And that never includes video games.

It can be anything from playing an instrument, computing , wall flipping, to sex - but not video games.



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12 Nov 2014, 3:17 am

s**t. That's where I've gone wrong. I thought teh gentlemenz would be all over me once they found I could beat all the levels of Tetris.


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12 Nov 2014, 3:22 am

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s**t. That's where I've gone wrong. I thought teh gentlemenz would be all over me once they found I could beat all the levels of Tetris.


Not impressed, especially because it's Tetris.



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12 Nov 2014, 3:36 am

*cries in the corner*


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12 Nov 2014, 3:44 am

Not impressed by your drama either.



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12 Nov 2014, 3:49 am

How can I win your admiration, O Beauteous Head In A Jar?


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12 Nov 2014, 4:32 pm

Toy_Soldier wrote:
I don't see anything wrong with it. In a way it is one of the most useful motivations to achieving things that need to be done anyway. It has always been probably the prime mover for me - not everything or all details - but in keeping the ball rolling with an eye towards how it looks from the outside.

Maybe certain people feel (impressing and gaining a partner) is the most important motivator while others are motivated by other things. I suspect that's the case. I am not sure that matters so much as you just have motivation and reasons to keep going. The things you are shooting for like being financially independent, good physical appearence, etc, are definitely on target for your goals. Where you live and how you keep it is also important.

But these things alone are like the window dressing, that brings someone in to see what you are like inside. For them, the most important aspect may be how you view and value them, and not just in the opening stage but in the long run. Its a lot easier to lose a love then gain one.


I agree 100% ^^



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12 Nov 2014, 4:41 pm

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How can I win your admiration, O Beauteous Head In A Jar?


Be a serious business.



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12 Nov 2014, 4:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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But am I selling my health and my life of leisure just for a chance to impress girls that may not work anyway? (ironic that I may have harmed my health in an attempt to look healthier). What if my girl problems weren't even caused by my appearance or my occupation in the first place? What if was more social problems?


From ideally ethhical view it is wrong, but it's what most people do anyway: Women go on harsh diets, do plastic surgeries, put make up, buy expensive clothes and apparels...all so they can be more impressive in the eyes of others (whether men or other women) - now sometimes you hear a woman saying "I do this because it makes me more conformtable, not to impress others" - ha! but that's a fat lie because if she was living in an island alone she certainly wouldn't do it.

Men do it too, they go to gyms, drink stupid loads of proteins and take harmful enhancements, buy expensive clothes and cars ...all for the same reason.


I ate 2850 calories while I only burned 2400 calories. Makes me feel so freaking bad about myself. Tomorrow I am going to walk an hour extra and only eat 250 calories.