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em_tsuj
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15 Nov 2014, 10:52 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
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4. Perhaps. It could be a number of things though. For example, you could be blocking unconscious sexual trauma from thought, which leades you to believe you don't want or need sex. Or you might have some deep rooted angsts or insecurities that are unconscious. All things that you can think of.


That assumes it is a problem to be asexual, which I don't buy.


Not neccesarilly, hence the word ´perhaps´.


Not much better. It only suggests that asexuality might be a problem. This is just as bad as homosexuality perhaps being a problem.


That's right. It may come from trauma or certain bad experiences. I remain by my standpoint.


I have studied the effects of trauma and shutting down sexually can definitely be caused by trauma, just like promiscuity or hypersexual behavior can be caused by trauma, particularly sexual abuse or incest.



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16 Nov 2014, 5:32 am

em_tsuj wrote:
I have studied the effects of trauma and shutting down sexually can definitely be caused by trauma, just like promiscuity or hypersexual behavior can be caused by trauma, particularly sexual abuse or incest.


OK, then give me some references that I can study. Also, promiscuity (and polyamory) + hypersexual behavior has nothing to do with asexuality (non-correlated), so it cannot be the same causative route.

I also did ask about sexual abuse in a Aspie Quiz version, seeing if it related to things like hypersexuality, and there is no strong correlation there. I think it is more likely that both asexuality and hypersexuality are preferences and not environmental problems. At least in the normal case. But if you can show me convincing research to the contrary I will reevaluate my position.