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08 Mar 2007, 9:51 pm

janicka wrote:

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dgd1788 wrote:

I don't believe in sex before marriage.

Yeah. I also don't believe in Yeti. I think he doesn't exist either.

dgd1788 is Mormon and his attitude is pretty common among Mormons.

In Utah a surprising ammount of younger people seem to get married for the sole purpose of sex. You wouldn't believe the number of late-teen/early-twenties girls that I've worked with who just obsess about sex in the weeks running up to their weddings (usually the durations of their engagement). And they ask really graphic questions - it's really uncomfortable.

And what kills me is that I've actually met people who have civil weddings because they "don't feel ready" for the Mormon wedding in the Temple (which they believe is for eternity, rather than til death do you part). Seriously, if you don't feel ready for that, you're not ready. Period.

I can understand morally opposing it but its silly to believe it doesn't exist.

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08 Mar 2007, 10:13 pm

I think what dgd meant is that he doesn't agree with it. Sometimes I say 'I don't believe in ...' when I mean that I don't agree with it.

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09 Mar 2007, 10:30 am

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I can understand morally opposing it but its silly to believe it doesn't exist.

Gotcha - I guess I am so used to hearing "I don't believe in..." that I take that to mean moral opposition rather than a statement that something doesn't exist.

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09 Mar 2007, 10:57 am

I think if two adults are consenting about it, use appropriate protection and are smart and not involved with others ie. marriage, than as long as they use some form of sense about themselves, it shouldn't be much of a problem with exception of religious issues, etc. But they also have to be willing to accept any consequences that could come from it... ie. residual feelings, pregnancy, etc.

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09 Mar 2007, 11:11 am

MishLuvsHer2Boys wrote:

I agree with you 100%.

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09 Mar 2007, 2:01 pm

If people want to get horny with each other, let them. As long as they use protection in cases they don't want a child. Just know that I don't want to be involved in no-attachment 'hook-ups'. I'd much prefer a long and lasting relationship.

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09 Mar 2007, 6:51 pm

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dude someone needs to hand you a tissue. you complain and cry about paying for things like its outta style or something. and if people didnt have unprotected sex, how on earth would you be here? you wouldnt.

I'm sorry, when you get a REAL job then you can talk to me like a man. Must be easy to tell others how much they whine as you sit on your ass all day, collect food stamps, and b***h about how "the man makes you work."

God, what you say is so dumb. "How on Earth would I be here?" You might be the result of a 'glow in the dark condom, a bottle of rum, and a van halen concert' but I was actually "planned." Go back to your shanty

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09 Mar 2007, 9:18 pm

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That's a really strange statement.

Believe it or not, my parents actually knew each others' first names and referred to each other by something other than "my baby's daddy" or "my baby's momma".

[sarcasm]I took high school health class. Even though it was roughly 15 years ago, I do seem to recall something about babies being the result of unprotected sex [/sarcasm].

One would hope that the people doing the unprotected screwing would be ready to deal with a baby.

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09 Mar 2007, 9:49 pm

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richardbenson wrote:

its good to see chip is still around, my goodness. i dont sit around all day and i didnt know i was whining about anything. and if i remember correctly i never complained about "the man" making me work. i'm just not a bird brain and will work 80 hours a week like the rest of these chickens out here. maybe you should go back and re-read what i actually said instead of making something up. so you can be hypocritical and i cant because you work more hours than me, wow. pot meet kettle, kettle meet pot.

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09 Mar 2007, 10:41 pm

It just seems like you really don't like the person you're doing it with and wouldn't get close to them again.

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10 Mar 2007, 6:37 am

Interesting. Among 20-something and teens, opposition to casual sex leads 4:3, but the 30+ group suports the idea by almost 2:1. I would have expected the opposite demographic results.

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10 Mar 2007, 6:44 am

Nah, we indoctrinate the young 'uns now.

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10 Mar 2007, 10:06 am

Book on women's sex 'hookups' draws fire

By JOCELYN NOVECK, AP National Writer
Fri Mar 9, 6:08 PM ET

NEW YORK - During a class discussion on adolescence, a high school teacher recently asked her students whether they go on dates. We don't "date," the 12th-graders reported. We "hook up."

If you're in your 40s, "hooking up" might mean catching a friend downtown for lunch. But to people in their teens or 20s, the phrase often means a casual sexual encounter — anything from kissing onwards — with no strings attached.

Now a new book on this not-so-new subject is drawing fire in some quarters for its conclusion: That hookups can be damaging to young women, denying their emotional needs, putting them at risk of depression and even sexually transmitted disease, and making them ill-equipped for real relationships later on.

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10 Mar 2007, 10:11 am

MrMark wrote:

Interesting. Among 20-something and teens, opposition to casual sex leads 4:3, but the 30+ group suports the idea by almost 2:1. I would have expected the opposite demographic results.

Might be interesting to do a male/female comparison too?

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10 Mar 2007, 10:14 am

I thought about that, but it involved posting 8 options and I might have become confused.

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10 Mar 2007, 10:29 am

MrMark wrote:

If you're in your 40s, "hooking up" might mean catching a friend downtown for lunch. But to people in their teens or 20s, the phrase often means a casual sexual encounter — anything from kissing onwards — with no strings attached.

That's what it's meant for quite a while now.

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