nTs dating Aspies?

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I recently moved in with my AS after dating for almost a year and a half. I'm NT. We have our problems. I love him though and I know he loves me in his own way. We made a commitment to each other and I want to make this work no matter how difficult. Our biggest problems are my need for lots of physical affection and his need to always be right (which would make me wrong all the time.) On the rare occasion that he actually is wrong and I tell him "you were wrong," he corrects me with, "No, I was mistaken." I say, "sadly." That's the way it goes in our relationship. Thank goodness we both have a great sense of humor and can make anything "less serious" when we need to. He admits that I am the most tolerant person he has ever met and he is probably right; (there's a surprise, huh?) But its not all about tolerating him; I do love him. It is definately possible for a NT and an AS to be in a committed, intimate relationship as long as you are communicating (as much as possible) and both willing to work hard. Now if I can only get him to learn to comprimise a little more....

Mary

Oh no! The world has changed more than I thought. Now you can date online? I can just imagine, I would be like on the chat channel here, just sitting and waiting for the other person to say something.

The only way for me dates NTs is go to speech thearpy. My shrink has identified this as the solution to the problem. My insurance plan covers it and my work has no problem as long the appointment can be schedule after 3:00 PM. He states that it will take a year or two to get it.

What is your thoughts?

Another thing is to propvide a education and disclosure to the NT Community. The amount of information in the news reported on Autism is And telling the other person that you are trying to become more NT-like without changing the core of your personal soul. Never give into a NT that requires you to give into your personal values so you can be the rest of the crowd. The treated "Aspie" has enough social smarts to deal with the NTs but does not compromise what that person tick Any long-term relationship is based on the partner's toleration of their individual quirks, emotions, and interests.

Another word of advice is stay away, away from the bling-bling crowd. The bling-bling crowd and autistics do not relate to each other.

I'm not sure what 'the bling-bling crowd' is.

I get along best with street people.

Think Paris Hilton. That's bling bling. Her crowd is the bling bling crowd. All those who try to emulate her are the bling bling crowd. Bling Bling is material possessions of great flashy value.

Hmm...they sound like they could be useful. Far too much money and all. hmmmmmm

i've only ever dated NTs (only recently finding out that i'm prolly not NT)... with the one exeption of my first bf who was DXed of either BP or schizo..

i've had great realtionships but they've had problems... which i'm now starting to realize that i played a more pivotable role in than previously thought... guess you could say i was "mistaken" A LOT lol but most the issues arise during controntations. i've always thought that relations are wonderful but defined by how you fight... whether it's productive or perpetually bad.

i'm about to (HOPEFULLY!! !) start a new relationship with a NT... and this time we both know what's up i am hopeful <3

Good luck. I don't think I could take it.