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Summersolstice (great name!) --

My suggestions would be to:

1) rewrite your profile just in case the loneliness/desperation has seeped into it. Doing so will likely improve the odds girls will reply to your messages.

2) remove the fact that you've never had a relationship from your profile. You aren't lying by failing to mention it - and it's likely causing women who'd otherwise be interested into NOT responding.

(When you meet in person, and a girl asks about your dating history you answer honestly!

In the profile? It's over-sharing & inappropriate).

3) You are responsible for your own happiness -- it can't be dependent on things/people outside your control (like having a girlfriend).

Please consider getting treatmebt for your depression as a first step -- a doctor and/or therapist can help you find a treatmebt that works for YOU.

Consider some social skills classes/therapy to assist you in making in-real-life (rather than online) friends -- it's a separate sort of "skill". Once you're a bit better at it, your odds of finding a gf will go WAY up.

(The lack of skill in making IRL friends is probably causing the lack of ability to connect with a girl).

Best of luck!! !

Good, someone has finally learned how to give a sound and civil advice to possibly autistic people (or the very least, very introvert and socially inept) without telling them "you're bitter that's why you have no gf and friends" or other baseless accusations, Mod's threatening worked.

I mean hey, Autism is a kind of social skills deficiency, of course people here would have problem to relate to people and difficulties in developing friendships/relationships.

This is passive aggressive BS. Stop it.

Ahh, so I am the aggressive one now, the user I am referring had been sooo aggressive for so long, I am glad this ended tho.

Ok, it was just a one-time note, I am done of this.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 17 Feb 2015, 6:23 pm, edited 1 time in total.

When someone sincerely tries to change their behaviour and attitude here, especially after being spoken to by moderators, and we come in and kick them for doing just that, it's unconscionable and borders on bullying. You know, you don't sound like someone who knows how to talk to autistic people in this thread, either, so there's some irony here. Be nice when people are trying to do their best, please, or else this whole place degrades into a slinging match. If you don't like the person posting, and plenty of us don't like each other (which is expected given our numbers), just avoid reading what they post at all.

^ ominous, bullying, being impolite, being accusatory and disrespecting others have nothing to do with autism.

On the other hand, having difficulties in forming relationships/friendships is directly linked to the very basic of autism symptoms - hence why it's normal for autistics to struggle in this.

But you're right, let's give people a chance to adjust their behavior.

Based on her history of being downright mean to men on this forum, Boo's response was nicer than she deserved.

Now y'all are just gang bullying. Enjoy. Kaytee if you ever need a friend or support here, please feel free to pm me.

Good luck at that if you're male.

No, really. Boo was responding based on her post history.
She constantly tells men that they are bitter (based on no evidence) and insinuates that everything bad that happens to them in dating is all their fault.

If someone doesn't want people to be nasty to them, they shouldn't be nasty to people.

I wish the Summer Solstice would come already!

It's so darn cold here in NYC. It's worse in Boston!