VagabondAstronomer wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Most people that have these kinds of issues, tend to have personality disorders, or other types of mental problems. Needless to say, these people have a natural gift for picking us out of the crowd.
I know that everybody says to work on improving yourself first (which is a good idea), but other people need to learn that it's wrong to take advantage of "vulnerable" people like ourselves.
This is an old topic, and yet it is associated with my most recent. To be honest, I had forgotten I'd written it.
Anyway, in discussing this with my therapist, he believes it is quite possible that she had BPD. She had molested as child and teen by her stepfather, and began drinking at a fairly young age (which I truly believe contributed in no small part to her sudden death on the 10th of January, 2020).
She was a "lost soul", as he put it.
And I truly believe that.
My thoughts and prayers are with you VA. Any of those situations are rigourous daily to get through mentally, emotionally, etc... On the spectrum we tend to hyper-focus on many things, also issues like those. I went through some crazy stuff in life. Something that helped me understand people a little better was to study up on Cluster-B personality disorders. On the spectrum, we can be naive and specific personality disorders seek autisitic traits aka targets. Silverstar is correct. The personality disorders I've studied/continue to study to varying degrees -even have some doctorate level studies on these- are Narcissicistic PD, Borderline PD, & Histrionic. Reading about these 3 things gave me very much insight into some intial signs upon meeting someone with one or more of the aforementioned PD's and to how to avoid them; it has 100% ended in extreme heartbreaks and emotional damage. Even YT has a bunch of stuff; Dr. Ramani and MedCircle has great info. I used to know a grudge-holding recycler narcissist. There was nothing I could do to help them but be emptied. Your situation is very different. We are with you and we support you. Much strength and encouragement to you. You are amongst friends.
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HFA/ASP, Synesthaesia, Tic Disorder
22 Jan 2020, 12:37 pm
