How To Tell If A Shy Guy Likes You - By A Shy Guy

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People did this to me in high school

Im really interested in this guy at work he seems to be super mega quite he doesnt say much i dont see him talking to anyone in my department not sure if he talks to anyone in other departments. I finally ibtroduced myself and i tried several times to talk to him and he barely talks anything i ask he just gives short answers, one word answers or just nods and smiles then i get nervous because i have a crush on him so i go blank i dont know what else to say he gets a little awkward and kind of starts to step away and im like ok talk to you later. I have to ask him 99 questions trying to get him to ttal and he doesnt say much. Then whenever he walks by my desk hes always always looking down as he walks by hes smiling but he doesnt look at me sometimes ill catch him look at me for a split second then he looks away and smiles sometimes he says hi other times he doesnt. One day as he was leaving i said bye have a good night he barely looked at me he smiled said bye and kept walking. Sometimes he passes by my desk frequently others he will take a long way and completely by pass walking by. Hes so hard to approach. Could it be hes just not interested in talking to me? Or could he be super shy? Because his actions sometimes make me wonder if hes not interested and im kind of crushing on him.

Some shy guys won't tell you they like you to avoid pestering you with the obvious, and save you the effort of telling them to bugger off, and themselves the ensuing public humiliation, as well as the possibility that a worthier suitor will beat them up for bothering you.

Dayum the memories man. I wrote this when I had a HUGE crush on this one girl.

Lol i was reading some stuff online and came across this post so i wanted to ask because ive never tried to approach someone like him and i wasnt sure whether hes super shy or just not interested in talking to me. And im so interested in him i guess i have to take it slow and ease into it sometimes the way he acts discourages me and makes me think hes not interested

Hi there! I am happy to see men out here putting out their insights, knowledge, wisdom and experiences. This maybe a long reply, sorry, but bare with me, just seeing if you may have some insights to offer me. I found myself single after a 11yr relationship that I was committed to. When I posted my profile for a dating site for the 1st time after this transition, I really put it out there what I would choose for a partner.I had quite the list since I was not wanting to ever repeat unhealthy patterns. A mans profile popped into my email that made me stop and double his profile and learn a bit about him. I initially thought it was him showing me interest, not knowing how these datingsites truly worked. But there on for the last almost 2years he profiles have matched with mine for different sites, when I talked to people they knew him and thought he was in relationship and I let him know that his profiles were still out there in case he was in relationship, he just said sorry and that he would remove it. I never tried to contact him for a long time after this and had closed my profile accounts. I started back on about 6-8 months later and his profiles were being matched up to me again. I also had people bring up his name to me as a person I should contact for my plans of community work, them not knowing I liked him.So, during the time I was off his name was brought up a couple of times by different people. Then I realized I knew him and confirmed with my friend. I messaged him and there was no reply. I was told he was super shy and I left it. I am normally very shy also. Then Nov came along 2 Nov ago, and his profile again was on the same one as me and we were being matched up. I clicked he was my favorite. Then this last year September....he clicked he wanted to meet me. I fell to the floor literally! I have never ever experienced this type of reaction.Kills me. I want to go slow, but never thought he would initiate but I always hoped. Then with a bit of nudging on my part I got from him he was definitely interested and was a busy man (which I know to be true) but we finally after some time met for a coffee. I was so into sensing things with him I just lost my tongue I had no idea what totalk about, but he talked for us mostly, there were some side glances at each other, smiles, and a "pound it" greeting saying we finally did it! He said he wanted to meet again and I said me too! but we never got there. I think I scared him off because I talked about preparing to ask questions next time that mean something to us. Replies were most of the time slow, but if I felt I was waiting too long I would "nudge" him nicely. He said I was beautiful and in saying that he wished he had more time. I replied back understandingly andshowed patience. He replied back saying he had been thinking for the last couple of days and its his first time alone with his son gone and that he wasn't ready for a relationship. This was Oct. Then I replied back totally understanding and all that saying I was getting to know myself too. He appreciated my understanding and thought I was an amazing person and I said it back to him. Then a day later, I was thinking and feeling a whole lot and decided to open up to him about believing there was aconnection there for us that was worth exploring and I hoped that he wouldn't close the door on me and asked him to keep it open and let me in... so to speak...and nothing we are friends on facebook. he has liked my willow basket making that is it. I have liked some of his postings and have listened to 2 of his podcasts and commentedboth times. We are on the same dating site POF and my heart jumpseverytime Isee his picture. It has been almost 2 years since this all started, in march. I have not been able to forget him ...its crazy.... I go about my life doing what I love.....being open to possibilities but I have set thebar high ... so my match needs to compliment my path and I have may sides to me, holistically, mental, spiritual, emotional, physical... meaning from home body to adventurer,gardener, working out yoga, native culture, crafter, love car racing, paint ball ect ect. I also have a cultural tie that I want to share with someone, but the point is, he meets all the critera and I am not sure if I should try to contact him after I poured my heart out and he never replied back... I am shy and have no idea how this meeting people like this works..I have never dated before.. If you have any feedback it would be appreciated..thank you

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Are you talking to me? lol ..just not sure and what do you mean? Saying that I am good at writing?

I just don't know what to say.... I have been going over in my head how to approach this...I have thought about asking him for another meeting..but that just seems kinda blah.. but I was thinking just this am, about messaging him on POF and saying thank you for giving me a chance and for being honest with me and that I was still open for a another get together. Such a big deal for me to trust. I have always believed and trusted and so many times it has not been in my favor, but has been a huge learning curve. Knowing what to say and how to say it is important to me. Just don't know if he's jjust not that into me, or if hes just being shy.

The guy I have a crush on, he did 3 maybe 4 of these things, but I can't see him now.

why can't you see him now? and would you have done anything different?

I met him at a coffee house where he works, I had a feeling he likes me & interested in me too. The coffee house is being remodeled, it been 15 days now. I don't know where he is.