Fed up with rejection

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practice getting friends first, worry about the other s**t later

I have never asked anyone out or seen anyone else try doing that. Can anyone explain how it typically works?

I don't think i could agree more with you, Lowfreq50....
i know with the past relationships i've had/attempted to have with other individuals i've never known them. i don't think knowing them first is entirely practical, why you ask? or why would a female say this? well because you never know if you're going to see a person again, and, you never know if that one second you could've taken (even to possibly get rejected) could've resulted in the best relationship you would ever have in life. ever.

i'm thinking that perhaps its many factors affecting why you're not having luck with women..... most like to say physicality doesn't matter but, today and probably forever, they do and thats for some reason the way of it... by no means am i saying that no woman would be attracted to your wonderful personality ( ) but think of it like this (i'm a writer so i can't bring it into clearer context than this) your personality is the body of a paper your looks the thesis and the conclusion- its the first and last thing people remember about you.

the bottom line.... even though i admit i'm hardly the pick of the litter i at least like to keep myself as styled or at least well-groomed as possible. this might seem like obvious advice to some but, showering, haircuts (and some sort of styling), buying decent clothing (decent doesn't equate to expensive just a nice neutral shirt and dress pants/khakis/jeans), all speak volumes and will certainly gain you some points so far as how ladies receive you- then, and only then, can you work on the approach...approaching this women should be done with tact- for instance, i don't go ahead and ask out a tall model type, dressed to the nines, because i hardly think they'd say yes and thank goodness for my defense mechanism allowing me not to make an ass of myself... it would be a good rule of thumb if you sat down one night and characterized exactly what you wanted in a female companion... just asking anybody out really sets you up for dissapointment..

how are you approaching these women? what do you normally say? what type of women do you normally ask out?
do you look your best before attempting? these are all important factors that have a great deal to do with your success in dating....if you could, could you possibly write down what you normally say? i think we could all help better if you did!

My friend is blond-haired 6"2 and he asked tons more girls out then you and got rejected.

I've asked tons of girls out, and the first one that's ever asked me out (and I came to closest to actually having a girlfriend) I had to refuse because she was just too old for me.

There's also nothing wrong/weird with asking girls out whom you've met at that day. Most of the people you meet you are only going to see once, and you know right away whether there's a spark between you. You don't go to a girl you just met 'hey wanna be friends then think about dating later?'

I'll bet you all the women complaining about being asked out a lot would cry in a corner if the tables were turned and NO ONE asked them. They like the attention because if validates their beauty, but they're not going to say that because that would make them vein.

I know that I cry in the corner because no one asks me. But that's cool - I like crying.

that means one thing : you are physically unattractive , you have to try to improve your looks if you want a girl so bad.....

I don't think this works. I've been doing that for the last six years and it's only worked once and that was only because she had slightly cruel friends.