Dating an Aspie Female. Need advice

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I can relate to this 'lack of commitment' - I'm not like this anymore but I used to be a lot like this with guys. It wasn't that I didn't want commitment but more the fact that I was scared of the guy finding out who I really was - I think its an aspiegirl trait to try and 'mask' your emotions - and also a deeper feeling of being scared of rejection. This is just my interpretation though - not sure if this helps!

They are lovely but I avoid them .

I think she likes you and that indeed she is scared, doesn't understand everything, is confused BECAUSE of her AS.

Reading this reminded me of a friend I had. Although I really liked him, etc. I said many of the same things she has said to you and gave him the same reasons. It was without a doubt the biggest mistake of my life. He actually talked about marriage, he actually talked about having kids, he never specifically TOLD ME he loved me. Because of this, I was scared and had doubts. My feelings were I thought stronger and therefore, I pushed him away. That was over 20 years ago and to this day, I can honestly say, it was the biggest mistake of my life. I wish he would've been open with me about his feelings, not just that he wanted to marry me and given me a little space, yet not left completely. I do believe he feels the same today.

FWB as in Friends With Benefits? You serious? Or am I just too old or conservative? The dude is head over heals with her, not just trying to score something. Good grief.