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23 Jun 2015, 8:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
No, that's White Knight syndrome.


Would you do the same to a crying man?


I would as long as he didn't push me away, but I bet my hug would be very awkward. I sometimes don't know what to do when people are upset, so I usually sit there with a puzzled look on my face.



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24 Jun 2015, 8:45 am

I wouldn't approach a person who is crying--but I would feel the urge to.



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24 Jun 2015, 9:01 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.




What? You really thought it wasn't about boobs?

Hugging and boobs are related in animes.

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24 Jun 2015, 9:02 am

Even if it's not considered "normal", wanting to cheer sad people up with no agenda involved rather than trying to make said people feel better is a beautiful and noble goal IMO.



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24 Jun 2015, 9:07 am

^^^
Except for the OP's goal is probably to play a game of hide-the-salami afterwards.



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24 Jun 2015, 6:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What? You really thought it wasn't about boobs?

Hugging and boobs are related in animes.

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Aren't they in real life, too, though? I don't really know why anime characters make those faces. I guess I never learned to fully dissociate sexuality from mere affection towards a woman---unless she's a family member or her age differs too much from mine. Woman is arguably the most sexual creature that's ever existed, her tool-using body free from the evolutionary pressures to retain built-in weapons or armor, like females of other species did, or the muscle mass, rough skin and body hair of man. Everything in her body has been selected to be nice and pleasant both to her offspring and to her mate, and to make them addicted to her. If breasts weren't meant for something in addition to nursing babies, they'd be shrunk and barely noticeable when not lactating, like the mammaries of other female mammals are.

So I don't know where the problem is. Women are physically pleasant. Being hugged by someone physically pleasant is pleasant, especially if you know she really wants to hug you. Her boobs are part of what makes it so pleasant, as are her arms, her hands, the heart you can feel beating inside her chest, her neck, her lips, her cheeks, her eyes and her brain driving it all.


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25 Jun 2015, 4:24 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What? You really thought it wasn't about boobs?

Hugging and boobs are related in animes.

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Aren't they in real life, too, though? I don't really know why anime characters make those faces. I guess I never learned to fully dissociate sexuality from mere affection towards a woman---unless she's a family member or her age differs too much from mine. Woman is arguably the most sexual creature that's ever existed, her tool-using body free from the evolutionary pressures to retain built-in weapons or armor, like females of other species did, or the muscle mass, rough skin and body hair of man. Everything in her body has been selected to be nice and pleasant both to her offspring and to her mate, and to make them addicted to her. If breasts weren't meant for something in addition to nursing babies, they'd be shrunk and barely noticeable when not lactating, like the mammaries of other female mammals are.

So I don't know where the problem is. Women are physically pleasant. Being hugged by someone physically pleasant is pleasant, especially if you know she really wants to hug you. Her boobs are part of what makes it so pleasant, as are her arms, her hands, the heart you can feel beating inside her chest, her neck, her lips, her cheeks, her eyes and her brain driving it all.


I wish the people who I hugged thought the same. :cry:



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25 Jun 2015, 5:22 pm

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Whenever I see a woman who is sad, I want to give her a hug and comfort her and cheer her up and when I do I feel good inside, that I did a good deed and made someone happy, is this normal?


Yes, that's normal.


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25 Jun 2015, 5:33 pm

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When I see a lady crying I want to hug her and comfort her and make her feel better and when she feels better and hugs me back all happy I feel good inside!I get told I am a sweetheart after this, should I take the compliment?


As I see it, they are giving you a compliment. I don't understand what you mean by whether you should take it?

You know what? You have the highest Aspie score that I have seen so far. That's cool!!


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25 Jun 2015, 5:39 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.


You need to change your location, dude. :lol:


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25 Jun 2015, 5:47 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What? You really thought it wasn't about boobs?

Hugging and boobs are related in animes.

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Aren't they in real life, too, though? I don't really know why anime characters make those faces. I guess I never learned to fully dissociate sexuality from mere affection towards a woman---unless she's a family member or her age differs too much from mine. Woman is arguably the most sexual creature that's ever existed, her tool-using body free from the evolutionary pressures to retain built-in weapons or armor, like females of other species did, or the muscle mass, rough skin and body hair of man. Everything in her body has been selected to be nice and pleasant both to her offspring and to her mate, and to make them addicted to her. If breasts weren't meant for something in addition to nursing babies, they'd be shrunk and barely noticeable when not lactating, like the mammaries of other female mammals are.

So I don't know where the problem is. Women are physically pleasant. Being hugged by someone physically pleasant is pleasant, especially if you know she really wants to hug you. Her boobs are part of what makes it so pleasant, as are her arms, her hands, the heart you can feel beating inside her chest, her neck, her lips, her cheeks, her eyes and her brain driving it all.


Wow. Just wow. You talk like that to a woman and you'll get a date.


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25 Jun 2015, 10:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Thank god this isn't about boobs and erections.




What? You really thought it wasn't about boobs?

Hugging and boobs are related in animes.

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Well? When i see a woman who is sad and crying it is one of those moments that boobs are not on my mind because I have more concearn about her emotional well being, I want to cheer her up so she is not sad and after that I get a good feeling inside, as for the Naruto pic Hinata always has had a crush on Naruto while Naruto has always been oblivious to Hinata so in away the pic is inaccurate according to the anime!


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26 Jun 2015, 1:44 am

Spiderpig wrote:
Her boobs are part of what makes it so pleasant, as are her arms, her hands, the heart you can feel beating inside her chest, her neck, her lips, her cheeks, her eyes and her brain driving it all.


Are you trying to make women horny here over your erotica?



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28 Jun 2015, 3:44 am

CateJayne wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
Whenever I see a woman who is sad, I want to give her a hug and comfort her and cheer her up and when I do I feel good inside, that I did a good deed and made someone happy, is this normal?


Do you know the woman who is crying? How well do you know the woman who is crying? Do you know why the woman is crying?

If your answers aren't yes, pretty well (& that she'd say the same about you) and have some sort of clue... then, do not hug or approach her, because it's creepy to insert yourself into the life of a total/near stranger and it's unlikely to be appreciated.
Well I usually ask what is wrong before approaching and if she says piss off then I take the hint and move on, but if it is someone i know who feels down and I ask and such and she says what is going on I sit down to listen and try my best to comfort her and make her feel better and when she feels better and stops crying and is happy I feel good inside! I don't want to give off that creep vibe which is why I act fairly cautious at first, I just want to cheer people up and I feel better cheering someone who is down up. I know what it is like feeling down and would want someone to comfort me and cheer me up so I would reciprocate! Feeling down and sad sucks and it does. I mean it beats being a jerk who laughs at her crying and calling her a loser!Its like the times I self harm but when I self harm it makes others sad so I stop doing it because it makes them sad and I fail to realize it and my wanting to make others happy stops me from continuing, I just want to make other people happy.I Just want to be a good person and cheer other people up.


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28 Jun 2015, 6:02 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Are you trying to make women horny here over your erotica?


Not really :lol: I’m trying to figure things out, as there’s a lot I don’t understand about this topic. Unfortunately, I have this tendency to look like I’m lecturing others who probably know a lot more than I do, and thus make a fool of myself.

Also, women have all those things in themselves, so it’s hardly my erotica :jester:


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