The real reason why you aren't hit on much by women.

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Half a minute is the average time it takes neurotypicals to change the subject in a casual conversation, so it makes sense for it to be the time they take to lose interest when an aspie talks about a special interest, too.

I concur with this, for I used to ignore all women all the time, and of the ones that I did bother to eventually socialise with, when I was learning to actually socialise, I would often be able to find a common interest or two or several between me & the girl, and for some reason such shared interests often seems to make the girl feel a lot closer to you.

The hard part is having interests worth sharing and being good at them.

Well, and being young. If you're not young anymore, I guess it's game over for you.

Giving up on anything to do with women would make my choices for the rest of my life much, much easier. The problem is I'd never forgive myself for letting go of any tiny chance I might still have.

Like others have said, the key, I believe, is to not look desperate. Talk to women like people--like you're their friend. Stop "listening" to all that research which "teaches" you how to pick up women. Research ain't real life--it's maybe a reflection of it told from a macrocosmic viewpoint. Anecdotal accounts are the best teachers.

Yes, women are human and can be shallow sometimes and some body types are more popular with them like tall men and popular men. No, exposing this or obsessing over it will not get you a girlfriend or anything else good in your life.

Women are scared, like you.

Face of Boo, I think you need to accept that the kind of woman who talks about gender issues online often see women as a group oppressed by men and believe that it is not safe to talk honestly about women's faults with the oppressor group, the same as a black anti-racism activist would not want to talk about honest problems they see and discuss in their own community on a forum full of racists who would use black people's issues to make black people look bad.

On a feminist, women's only forum they might talk more honestly and self critically "why do so many of us date jerks over and over?" "why do so many of us only date tall men?" but they are never going to talk that honestly with someone who puts women in the firing line like you do.

And if they did, so what? has Janissy's honesty put anything good in your life or gotten you a girlfriend, no. Short men have the ability to hurt and exploit women through things like sex work more than conventionally unattractive women can or want to do to men (aside from the occasional mad female dictator maybe) , so they are going have less sympathy and more of a guard up.

I recall when younger, I used to just go out and enjoy myself at the bars and night clubs. I wasn't looking for anything at all. Eventually, women would start talking to me and introducing themselves to me. I would hit it off, then it would break off for whatever reason after a short while. I did find that some friends (and eventually I got like this as well), started to come out for the sole purpose of trying to hook up with others since it used to come easy. Now it became hard to get women to talk to us. Eventually, everyone stopped trying and started doing what we did in the first place: enjoy the night regardless of what happens.

What is attractive? It's all subjective anyway.

Look, if you, fnord and tombo are referring to me, let me tell you: I don't "socialize" behind the screen - I even barely use facebook, and I definitely don't "socialize" with any WP member on a forum.

And if we are gonna talk about negative correlations, so be it, I also see a very strong negative correlation between people who JUDGE others and assume stuff about them behind the screen and people who are totally not worth of getting to know, how about that? eh? It's only fair, tit for tat psychoanalysis.

So....stop assuming stupid things, the three of you.

Do I seek sometimes for potential dates or even for potential casual sex behind the screen? Yes, I do, but it's just for that.

Congrats, Boo!

I hope, soon, you will schedule these "encounters" more frequently.