75th anniversary couple die in each other's arms- so rare

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why is it so hard for more compatible people to pair up for the duration?

because very few people are on the same type of life path.	17%	[ 4 ]
because very few people are that loyal	38%	[ 9 ]
because in this world everything including people ultimately are widely considered to be merely disposable or fungible	25%	[ 6 ]
I've no blessed idea.	13%	[ 3 ]
I'd rather have a nice yummy ice cream!	8%	[ 2 ]

Total votes : 24

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23 Jul 2015, 7:56 pm

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they got to have many good decades together. when I feel utterly defective I can think of them and be comforted that there is some love in this world even if I don't get to experience it.

You are loved here, auntblabby. I don't believe you are defective.

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23 Jul 2015, 8:00 pm

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auntblabby wrote:

they got to have many good decades together. when I feel utterly defective I can think of them and be comforted that there is some love in this world even if I don't get to experience it.

You are loved here, auntblabby. I don't believe you are defective.

thank you my sweet :flower:

I am the way god made me :bounce:

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23 Jul 2015, 8:05 pm

I like the way God made you. People being together is rarely all that great. I only knew one couple that I thought really valued each other. This couple you posted were a rare treasure.

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23 Jul 2015, 8:21 pm

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I like the way God made you. People being together is rarely all that great. I only knew one couple that I thought really valued each other. This couple you posted were a rare treasure.

thank you

we are all as flowers, each resplendent in our own individual way :star:

life is surely easier with a properly companionable mate.

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23 Jul 2015, 8:25 pm

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justkillingtime wrote:

I like the way God made you. People being together is rarely all that great. I only knew one couple that I thought really valued each other. This couple you posted were a rare treasure.

thank you

we are all as flowers, each resplendent in our own individual way :star:

life is surely easier with a properly companionable mate.

The key words being "properly companionable"; that is where it gets difficult.

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23 Jul 2015, 9:03 pm

justkillingtime wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

justkillingtime wrote:

I like the way God made you. People being together is rarely all that great. I only knew one couple that I thought really valued each other. This couple you posted were a rare treasure.

thank you

we are all as flowers, each resplendent in our own individual way :star:

life is surely easier with a properly companionable mate.

The key words being "properly companionable"; that is where it gets difficult.

yeh, as aspies there aren't a whole lot of other folk who are on our frequency.

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23 Jul 2015, 9:11 pm

I watch the people not on the spectrum and they don't seem to do very well in relationships. There are a lot of dysfunctional people out there.

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23 Jul 2015, 9:16 pm

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I watch the people not on the spectrum and they don't seem to do very well in relationships. There are a lot of dysfunctional people out there.

mebbe it is like what Katherine Hepburn said, "perhaps men and women are not so well suited for each other, maybe it would be better if they lived apart and dropped in now and then."

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23 Jul 2015, 9:20 pm

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justkillingtime wrote:

I watch the people not on the spectrum and they don't seem to do very well in relationships. There are a lot of dysfunctional people out there.

mebbe it is like what Katherine Hepburn said, "perhaps men and women are not so well suited for each other, maybe it would be better if they lived apart and dropped in now and then."

I like that. I thought the ideal for me would be to live in a duplex. I would live on one side and my partner would live on the other side. A lot of people would not like that living situation, though.

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23 Jul 2015, 9:51 pm

justkillingtime wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

justkillingtime wrote:

I watch the people not on the spectrum and they don't seem to do very well in relationships. There are a lot of dysfunctional people out there.

mebbe it is like what Katherine Hepburn said, "perhaps men and women are not so well suited for each other, maybe it would be better if they lived apart and dropped in now and then."

what would be better though, would be to have the perfect match that the OP couple had.

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23 Jul 2015, 9:58 pm

You are right. I just think the odds are a long the lines of winning the lottery.

I like what you wrote earlier: "They got to have many good decades together...I can think of them and be comforted that there is some love in this world even if I don't get to experience it."

It is too sad to think there are times when you feel utterly defective.

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23 Jul 2015, 10:24 pm

^^^
so what is your strategy to ward off the defective feelings?

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23 Jul 2015, 10:37 pm

I love animals. I would not shun an animal for being different. So, I try to have that same kindness to myself and other people.

Also, I don't agree with the masses' idea of what is something to strive for. The ultimate measure of a man (to me) is how he/she treats living things he/she encounters. I'm guessing you are near the pinnacle.

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23 Jul 2015, 10:53 pm

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I love animals. I would not shun an animal for being different. So, I try to have that same kindness to myself and other people. Also, I don't agree with the masses' idea of what is something to strive for. The ultimate measure of a man (to me) is how he/she treats living things he/she encounters. I'm guessing you are near the pinnacle.

why thank you sunshine :flower:

I'm not as good as I could be but I try hard most of the time. :bounce:

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24 Jul 2015, 1:57 pm

justkillingtime wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

justkillingtime wrote:

I watch the people not on the spectrum and they don't seem to do very well in relationships. There are a lot of dysfunctional people out there.

mebbe it is like what Katherine Hepburn said, "perhaps men and women are not so well suited for each other, maybe it would be better if they lived apart and dropped in now and then."

I would like that very much.

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24 Jul 2015, 3:04 pm

that to me sounds more like a casual friendship and not a true husband and wife.

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