Sexual favors in exchange for gift ?

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18 Jul 2015, 3:37 pm

Back on AC, a lot of Aspies said they hate celebrating their bdays and holidays. Is this not true of the Aspies here? My Aspie friend got "weird" on me when I sent things wishing him a happy bday - he didn't say thanks and wouldn't even tell me the exact day of his bday. I don't understand it.

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18 Jul 2015, 3:41 pm

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My own feeling on gifts is that they are freely given, and most definitely not to be expected, far less demanded. The whole situation as you describe it seems very strange to me, and if I were the OP this guy more than likely wouldn't be getting any gift from me at all as a result of his behaviour.

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I feel the OP's boyfriend is, seemingly, being a little bratty, and / or manipulative----and, that is NOT cool!

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18 Jul 2015, 4:27 pm

Do you NT ladies come here because you deal(t) with Aspies or with nutjobs?

Two different conditions.

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18 Jul 2015, 5:28 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you NT ladies come here because you deal(t) with Aspies or with nutjobs?

Two different conditions.

I come here because I like Aspies. I don't even know any Aspies in real life, that I know of.

What does your question mean?

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18 Jul 2015, 5:29 pm

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I believe in the concept of "it's the thought that counts."

Even if the gift implies that the thought behind it is "I really don't give a damn what you want"?

Well that's a thought.

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18 Jul 2015, 7:22 pm

I don't believe in gifts that try to force the recipient into the ideology of the giver.

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18 Jul 2015, 7:29 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I don't believe in gifts that try to force the recipient into the ideology of the giver.

Like ... giving Bibles to children who can barely read ... ?

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18 Jul 2015, 7:45 pm

That's an attempt to indoctrinate.

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18 Jul 2015, 7:49 pm

If they actually read the Bible, including the more gruesome parts, the attempt may backfire

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18 Jul 2015, 7:58 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

That's an attempt to indoctrinate.

a.k.a., "... force the recipient into the ideology of the believer ..."

All same-same!

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18 Jul 2015, 9:10 pm

Fnord wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

I don't believe in gifts that try to force the recipient into the ideology of the giver.

Like ... giving Bibles to children who can barely read ... ?

And yet they still try to tell the children it's a precious gift :roll:

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18 Jul 2015, 9:18 pm

i don't understand why it would be so bad to give him what he wants. he surely is making it easy for you to please him.

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18 Jul 2015, 10:30 pm

In this day & age people create wishlist on Amazon to get what they want so I don't see the problem in giving him the gift he wants. Maybe he wouldn't buy it himself now cuz he cant afford it or he just doesn't want any other gifts & wouldn't want anything if he didn't get that book anyways.

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19 Jul 2015, 12:49 am

nurseangela wrote:

yes and no. I want to celebrate it kinda, I also see birthdays as a bad day its a marking of another pointless year in life, it marks the day of my existence which is worthless so why celebrate it.

when i was happy I liked small celebrations. if I had a gf I would prefer it just be me and her at least on the actual day. families like to have a party so I usually do so to make them happy.

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19 Jul 2015, 1:34 am

Idk if its manipulative, it looks like that, or is that overthinking ?
I don't see exactely why he must have it as a gift and can't buy it himself, but he wants you to give something that really makes him happy and love you for that!
Getting a present as a reminder of the start of a line of reminderpresents, that might be a big put off, too. As in disappointing and not very stimulating, relationshipwise.
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19 Jul 2015, 4:00 pm

The offer of a sexual favor for a present is just gross. And would set a bad precedent. You don't wanna go there.

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