JP88 wrote:
I'm just depressed at this point. I honestly feel I will never figure this out. I have not 1 friend of the female kind and now my family is interfering. On "accident" my sister said something to one of her friends and now some random 19 year old girl is adding me on Facebook. She's not someone I would be interested in at all and besides the point I have too much pride for this and I want to do this on my own.
But how can I? I literally have no clue. Right away I was thinking about what I have to say in response and a million thoughts race through my head. I literally have no idea how to talk to a female. I have no clue how to court anyone, I've never kissed, I have no experience in anything that could give me any confidence in figuring this out.
Then while eating dinner with my parents the other day, my dad joked about "my future wife" cooking for me (because he doesn't know how to) and when I said I don't think I ever will get married, I just saw the look on my parent's faces and my dad said, "c'mon you gotta have a kid to carry on the name." They looked so sad. My whole family pities me and I have a stigma attached to me anytime I'm at a family party. Everyone thinks I have something wrong with me.
That night I was laying in bed with tears streaming down my face just thinking about how alone I am and how isolated I feel from the World. I have my family and some buddies, but when they all move on I won't be seeing them as much and when my parents move on hopefully in a couple decades from now, who will I have?
1. If you're not interested in the random 19 yo, don't friend her on FB (let alone ask her out).
2. Consider seeking treatment for depression and/or anxiety. Or, at a minimum, seeing a doc to rule it out.
3. You might never figure out how to talk to, ask out on a date or court a girl/guy. Maybe you will but you don't ever meet anybody you click with. Who knows? Life doesn't guarantee you anything. Having fewer expectations/less sense of entitlement will make you less disappointed by, um, everything.
4. If you think you lack the skills needed to talk to girls/guys, find a therapist or class to teach them to you. After you've dealt with the depression/anxiety (if you hav any).
04 Aug 2015, 9:22 pm
