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I think you should get professional help. You don't know what you're doing wrong and have been failing over and over again. If you seek help, it might actually help you (and, if doesn't, well, your no worse off).

I have professional help for more than five years. Nothing has changed in terms of women understanding me. They kept misinterpret me lots of times. I didn't do anything to make that to happen, let alone I didn't try to make things goes wrong. I am not desperate. I see other people trying to find a date, even a NT that would assume desperate and they still ended up with someone else. That doesn't make sense to me.

As you get older, it gets easier to find women who don't look at the superficial aspects of things.

It's much better that you're on this committee, and that you're a member of that club at the university--than if you just isolate yourself.

I don't think you're that far off, personally. I just think you have to boost your confidence a bit. Honestly.

I have been talking to my three friends today, they are in three different groups and they have similar responses and as well similar experiences. They said that the mentioned issues of finding a relationship was also a problem for them as well their friends (whom I never met) also complained that they never had a date either. I can sense that NTs have very familiar issues as much as ASD people do too. From my perspective, it seems getting onto same level with NT. My diagnosis says that I am 25% ASD and 75% NT, hence being mild to it.

Although the friends told me they totally understand me. They explained about the two different perspectives, where it is a challenge for myself and the NT future girlfriend. They said to me from their perspective of my values and who I am they do not recommend me to do FWB or related issues. They see me as sensitive and caring type of guy. That proved this and it is clearly evident to that women really desire in. This made me happier because I love hearing people compliments and positive reflections on me because it makes me feel more of myself and use myself as a loving life.

They also said that, at the end, it is easier for women to start to learn awareness more through making friends rather than ask for a date upfront. None of them be superficial like what kraftiekortie said. So yes, I know it is challenge down to terms of communication, but my friends says that it is also a problem for them too. They feel anxious of being lonely forever in their life. I have come across to the female friends are very emotional to wanting to have a boyfriend/husband in their lives. The more they realise this, the better outcomes of relationships where they go after the right males. The non superficial way.

Now you're talking!

I think you've obtained a healthy perspective on this.

I like to have love and show love from myself. I think women like that and they better respect that. This is a wake up call. Having disabilities doesn't mean I can't love women, as what most people think in terms of judgments.