Peejay wrote:
Oh yeh. re the future and employment.. always be positive, have a plan. with some options to talk about if plan A. doesn`t work .......believe in it., believe in your ability to succeed.
Talk about your future in a positive way.
Re, the physical side. Well you will probably be a bit nervous, I always was, don`t let this put you off, She is probably nervous too.
Start slowly (even over a couple of meetings) if you are not sure then wait until each move is reciprocated a little before moving forward, Maybe let her make a move too?
I think warm eye contact is the sexiest thing of all. However if you are a bit aspie this maybe weird for you or even come across as too intense so don`t be starey be smart, be gentle.
a safe-ish place to initiate a friendly touch in a friendly (non sexual) way is the side of the upper arm, its not too offensive. once or twice.
EG, if you are watching TV, why not sit close-ish. eg if your leg or arm is slightly touching hers, and then she moves away, that is a small sign to take your time, if your leg is slightly touching and she doesn`t withdraw then that is also a sign that she is comfortable, she is allowing you into her personal space. this is a great start.
watch for these tiny signs.
As for the rest, that`s part of the thrill! but gentle kiss to begin ... let her lead? then take your time with gentle very soft strokes often gets the mood started.
Thank you for the pointers. I'd been pessimistic about my occupation for too long, I need to start focusing on the opportunities instead.
So far she's comfortable leaning against me when we're on a sofa. Will make progress in the next date.
great start then! ... take your time my friend, its not a race.
05 Oct 2015, 1:22 pm
